I'm sorry to say but I have become hard-hearted to people. Like Roy said these characteristics are all to prevalent in today's world. I only help those who God seriously puts it on my heart to help, those who are trying to help themselves, and those who cannot help themselves.
I own a small business who employs students for summer help. The ones who are working to put their own selves through school are almost always the only ones who are worth employing. The ones who are looking for gas money or have parents who give them everything are not worth my time. They hardly work, call off for anything that interferes with their social life and quit with no notice. And anytime you just give someone something it ruins them in my opinion. Example, I have one employee who for the last several years has been the top of the heap, they come from a financially tough home life but are rising above it. This year they found out that their father may be eligible for Gov. benefits that will also pay a large part of the college expenses. It was like a light turned off and their work ethic went downhill.
I live in one of the poorest regions of the country. Times are tough for many, but show me a family who is down and scraping by, but working two or more jobs to stay off public assistance; and I'll show you a family that has a hard work ethic and people who care for and take care of what little they have. Flip the coin over and you will see people who do not try to work, who won't work when they have a job, and their belongings and possessions are as messy as the rest of their lives. I listened to a story on the radio last week, a woman had a brother in his 50's almost ready to lose his home and be out on the streets, she had been helping him financially for her whole life while her husband worked 2 jobs. Her brother recently had a job and quit in 3hrs because he refused to cut his hair. And she wonders if she is wrong to continue helping him?....Hello!
I know God has them where He wants them, and I could be their myself. It is for that reason that I am able to have any compassion at all for them. But having compassion and enabling is two different things.
Craig
PS be carefully in replying to this as I don't want it to turn in to a political debate or cause strife. If it does I'll remove my post or will lock it.