When I've figured out exactly how one is supposed to live, I'll let you know.
We're all as babes and youths. "Study to shew thyself approved, a workman that need not be ashamed" isn't an admonition for us to get smart enough to debate religious topics. "All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works..." adds to a knowledge of the Ten Commandments that went into the Ark. That adds with the first chapters of Romans and Paul's assumption concerning believers in Romans 7:14--"For we know that the law is spiritural..." That adds to much medititation on just what "spiritual" means.
And all that adds to Psa 139:17-18
How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them! If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I awake, I am still with thee.Line upon line, precept upon precept. Here a little, there a little. Faith upon faith. That's the way God works.
This doesn't happen quickly or easily. Religion might, but not worship. It also doesn't seem to me to be a straight line always upward and onward. If we don't find ourselves doing "wrong" in the course of trying to do right, then we really don't need salvation at all.
God is Sovereign God. He is responsible (and has taken responsibility) for all our actions. That sovereignty and responsibility doesn't end when we first come to believe that it's true. He made us, and is making us. Consequently, He knows us better than we know ourselves--He even knows how we turn out.
We do the things we do, and make the choices we make not so much to 'please God' with our righteousness but to reveal what's in our hearts. I don't know about you, but there's not much in mine that's going to survive the 'burning'.
Dark Chocolate? Do what you want to do. If tomorrow you learn something new, then change what you want to do.
Don't worry about your friend. We're in the same boat as Paul. I think of it this way: I can do whatever I want...
except:
Rom 7:19 I don't do the good I want to do. Instead, I do the evil that I don't want to do.
Rom 7:24,25 What a miserable person I am! Who will rescue me from my dying body? I thank God that our Lord Jesus Christ rescues me!