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JohnMichael:
DISCLAIMER: I am purely speaking from personal experience when I have had to play "interpreter" between friends who are couples. I am not speaking for all women or all men. I very much realize that there are exceptions to every rule. ;D

Women:

Women tend to speak from, and are ruled by, the Heart. They think in terms of how the subject or action is going to make someone feel. Is it going to hurt them? Is it going to cause pain? Is it going to make them happy? What kind of stress is it going to cause? Etc. The person's emotions are the viewpoint from which a woman looks at a particular subject or action.

Men:

Men tend to speak from, and are ruled by, the Mind. They think in terms of how the subject or action is logical or illogical. Does the framework make sense? Is it logical? Is it reasonable? What is the reason? Does it provide the solution to the problem? Does it have longevity and stability? Etc. Logic is the viewpoint from which men look at a particular subject or action.

Case in Point (if I might borrow your scenario, Samson):

You wanted to know the reason behind her statement. You desired to know her logic for stating what she did. Why did she say what she said?

Her viewpoint of the matter was that there didn't have to be logic behind it. She just felt like it - plain and simple. It didn't require a dissection or an analysis. That's how she felt. It is what it is.

Notice the disconnect?

Sometimes I truly think that God separated not only His masculinity and femininity when He created Man and Woman, but that He also separated His Mind and Heart. One would be ruled by one, and the other would be ruled by the other. The joining of the two would reflect His completeness (granted, in an imperfect way).

Hopefully the men and women won't try to burn me at the stake. ;D Again, I'm JUST speaking from personal experience. This is by no means conclusive or all-encompassing. Put those pitchforks down! ;D

There is a saying that "the Mind and Heart march to the beat of two different drummers, and they rarely fall into step." Nowhere is this more evident than with men and women. :D

Drew:
JohnMichael,

Your reasoning seems logical to me! ;D

moxicarose:
My husband and I will be married 12 years this August, and we are different as day and night when it comes to how we view things most of the time! And yes, I know that's the condition of the majority of married couples. Venus/Mars and all that. :P But I think it's interesting that what Samson said about wanting to know the reason behind his wife's doings and her frustration with his analytical tendency actually is the OPPOSITE for me and my husband. I am the one who wants to know why and he is the one who is happy with it just being what it is. I have a mind that spins a million miles a minute and he can fall asleep in 6 seconds flat. (While I am sorting thoughts and asking God to let the spinning slow down enough for me to sleep) The emotional side of things is still mine, of course...so not only am I analytical, but i go through the confusion of my own feelings and try to analyze them as well..Meanwhile my husband forgets that i deal with these things and wonders what crawled under my skin..Haha! He really is so comfy in his own skin. He actually isn't really that frustrated with me ever, and that frustrates me! I want him to seem like he cares more than he does because I feel all alone being so concerned with figuring things out...

balance.

balance needs to happen. :)

Kat:

Hi Samson,


--- Quote ---Why didn't He create Males & Females with a Brain that thinks & Feels the same.
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Good question.

Well I will give you my take on why this in the way God designed it. Having male and female brains that operate differently, is a way of enabling a much greater diversity in human personalties.

Even though there is always exceptions, I agree with John, men seem to be analytical, making them good at mathematics and engineering, they are looking for logical answers. Where as women seem to operate mainly with emotions and feelings, so they are empathizing types  making them good at mothering.

It's interesting because I can say to my husband, 'look it's raining outside.' His reply would then go something like this; when did it start? How hard is it raining? Is the wind blowing too? Is it suppose to rain all day, I wanted to cut the grass this afternoon? So many questions. Whereas if he told me it was raining, I might say, 'good the garden needed it.' That's it.

Another thing I will say is I think God made a means by which in relationships, with the combination of these different strengths and weaknesses of our genders, to enriching our knowledge (physical that is). Because each brings their own gender perspective that can add greatly to the understanding of the other. As well as all the joys and pleasures of you can have in a relationship there is the inevitable problems, which are great avenue for trials and tribulations and if we are to be overcomers, we need something to overcome. So it seems to me this whole male-female thing was design to make possible a great part of the good and evil experiences that we have in this life. I will just leave it at that.

mercy, peace and love
Kat

daywalker:

--- Quote from: Craig on May 25, 2011, 07:50:42 AM ---It's Venus and Mars Samson.

Her Side of the Story:

He was in an odd mood Sunday night. We planned to meet at a bar for a drink. I spent the afternoon shopping with the girls and I thought it might have been my fault because I was a bit later than I promised, but he didn't say anything much about it. The conversation was very slow going so I thought we should go off somewhere more intimate so we could talk more privately. We went to this restaurant and he was STILL acting a bit funny. I tried to cheer him up and started to wonder whether it was me or something else. I asked him, and he said no. But I wasn't really sure.

So anyway, in the car on the way back home, I said that I loved him deeply and he just put his arm around me. I didn't know what that meant because you know he didn't say it back or anything. We finally got back home and I was wondering if he was going to leave me! So I tried to get him to talk but he just switched on the TV. Reluctantly, I said I was going to go to bed.

Then after awhile, he joined me and to my surprise, we made love. But he still seemed really distracted, so afterwards I just wanted to confront him but I just cried myself to sleep. I just don't know what to do anymore. I mean, I really think he's seeing someone else.

His Side of the Story:

The 49er's lost.
Got lucky though.

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That......is........ A W E S O M E!!  ;D

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