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grapehound:
Well said Dennis.
My advice?
Success and failure are relative; they are a state of mind; an attitude if you will.
There are no absolute successes or absolute failures.
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There is a British comedy series that was aired a couple of years ago called, “That Mitchell and Webb Look” (recommended!). In one of their sketches, Mitchell and Webb were playing Nazi SS officers in the midst of battle.
The dialogue went something like this:
“ Otto, why are we here? I mean, what’s this all about? All this shooting and stuff?”
“ Hans my friend, it doesn’t matter WHY we’re here; we have orders and a job to do.”
“ But why are we dressed in black? And have you noticed that we have Skull and Bones on our hats? That’s not very nice is it? What’s all that about? We’re going to frighten people walking about with these things on our heads.”
“Hans; we are supposed to be frightening. It’s all designed to frighten people. This is war.”
“WAR? But whose side are we on? Those chaps we’re firing at don’t look half as frightening as us.”
Hans looks down again at his uniform and suddenly has a gross realisation.
“Otto? Are we the ‘bad’ guys?”
Otto looks blankly at Hans and gently nods.
“Oh my God! This is awful ! I’m going home.”
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As funny as that may sound, nobody will go to war believing they are wrong.
Axis troops were praying to God, just as the Allies were.
I’m not justifying the madness of genocide and war here; I’m drawing a parallel.
In the ‘latter days’ scenarios of scripture, all types of malevolent and insidious men are numbered as well as those that are peaceable and benign.
Neither camp believes they are wrong.
What has this got to do with your circumstances?
Well, negatively, someone has to be the ‘bad’ guy. God predicts it.
Now lets transfer this value judgement to commerce and industry.
Let’s take a look at success and failure.
SUCCESS is good, right? ; and FAILURE is bad, yeah?
SUCCESS is RIGHT ? FAILURE is WRONG ?
What if you succeed in doing wrong? Or fail to do right?
The whole notion of success and failure is a cultural abstract.
I totally recognise were your head is. You sound like me.
The trick is not to see it as success or failure.
I’m halfway through my first major screenplay. It’s been three years so far; because of distractions. It took me a full year just to outline, another year to storyline and this last year is actually becoming a script. Looking back, I could have done all this in six months; so why didn’t I ? Attitude.
Attitude to what you are following or are engaged in is the single most important ingredient of concluding a matter to your satisfaction.
concluding a matter to your satisfaction.
Success and failure don’t come into it. It’s about how satisfied YOU are with what you’re doing.
My father told me that there is no such thing as a lazy man.
Men are either motivated to do something or they are not.
It’s entirely a question of MOTIVATION.
“ Dad, how the hell do you get a man out of bed if he refuses to be motivated to get up?”
His answer?
“Set fire to the bed. That’s enough motivation for anyone, I don’t care how lazy he is.”
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The question I had to ask myself about being a budding ‘Hollywooder’ was:
Did I believe it?
It seems you have a very distinct goal in your head, not just a doctor, but a specialist.
Henry Thoreau once stated:
“ If you can head confidently in the direction of your dreams and live the kind of life you have imagined, you will come across a success undreamt of in common hours.”
The most important word in that entire statement?
IF.
IF you can.
Can you head CONFIDENTLY in the direction of your dreams?
Would you like to be able to?
Let me tell you what’s missing here.
A COMPELLING FUTURE.
The guy in the flaming bed already has a compelling future; PAIN.
He sees the approaching consequence of his lethargy and bingo!
He immediately chooses the PLEASURE of not being fried to a crisp.
You need to start using your imagination to build a compelling future.
Whatever ‘floats your boat’.
Do you see yourself making over $200,000 a year?
What would it be like?
What kind of a car will you drive?
What kind of a home will you own?
What kind of clothes, food, friends, partner and lifestyle will you have?
What kind of challenges might you face?
What if it all goes belly up?
What would that mean?
Now you’ve probably seen all this kind of methodology before, in some form or another.
But it’s about concluding a matter to your satisfaction.
No one else’s.
Ask yourself. Why do you believe what you believe about you?
The Reticular Activating System (check it out on wiki) is that function of your brain that governs attention. That which you say you lack.
“Ye lack nothing”
EMOTION plays a big role here and that is what is causing your attention to wonder away from that which you say is important. Maybe without realising it, you are investing your emotions into things that you say are contrary to you real desires.
When I first read your piece on BTF, I was reminded of a time when a lady friend asked me to fetch the salt from her kitchen cupboard. I walked into a huge kitchen that was completely unknown to me. I checked every single shelf, over and over. I began an internal mantra that ran: “ I dunno where the salt is. Where’s the salt? I can’t find the salt. It’s not here. It can’t be here. I cant see it. I cant see it, I cant find the salt, I cant find the salt, I cant find the salt.”
She’s calling for the salt now and I don’t want to look stupid. I’m getting angry with myself. My emotions are sizzling and suddenly I burst.
“ I CAN’T FIND THE #*&^%& !! SALT !!!”
She walks quietly into the kitchen, looks in disbelief at me and takes the salt from the shelf that was directly in front of me; at eye level!
Why didn’t I see the salt?
Because I had been telling myself, with great emotional intensity, that I COULDN’T FIND THE SALT !
So my R.A.S. did exactly as I told it and refused to see the salt.
This mechanism also works in reverse!
Every buy a yellow car because it was unusual?
All of a sudden, you’re seeing yellow cars everywhere!
Did everyone go get a re-spray just to ‘tick you off’?
NOOOOOO!
They were always there, but you just didn’t notice because there was nothing in your radar to pick ‘em up.
This is an attention mechanism that is fueled by emotion.
And THAT is what you must harness to Med studies, if being a Doc is what you truly want.
But forget the success and failure crap; it isn’t serving you.
And stop asking the question, “What’s wrong with me?”, because your own ego will take great delight in giving you a list which will swim around your head, creating your ‘reality’ of just how wrong you are.
Find what makes you happy, what ‘juices’ you and follow it with high emotional intensity; give it passion. But DO use and rely on imagination.
The world we live in was built by it.
You are made in His image. His imagination is your reality. You are like Him.
Every thought you have will be a cause that has an effect. Every thought. Make it captive. Make it serve your happiness; your joy. That’s His will for you. Be Happy.
I understand that this may be a lot to take in and you may be hearing these things for the first time. Its impossible to cram a dissertation into a single mail, but if you’ve caught something in these few lines that has piqued your desire, please be in touch on the PM line.
Muchest Luv
Grape x
PS. Lyric from Daddy
http://youtu.be/0put0_a--Ng
Kat:
Hi Alex,
Maybe you are focus so intently on the direction that you think you want to go, that you are not even opening your mind to what God is trying to show you. So times I think that we are yelling so loud what we want to do that we just can't hear that small still voice inside. Yes it is about attitude, seeking His will or ours. I would think He is the main one that you should seek the will of and to please, after all He knows where all things end up. Maybe He is closing doors that you want to go through and you just need to turn around and see the doors that He is opening. Yes I think we can go against what He is opening up for us to do, but wouldn't we be totally miserable, like Jonah. I'm just saying maybe you should open your mind to other possibilities.
Kat
Dennis Vogel:
On the other hand I'm reminded of some politicians who failed several times to get elected to a local office, but eventually went on to be president of the U.S.
lilitalienboi16:
--- Quote from: Stacey on June 23, 2011, 05:07:47 AM ---
--- Quote ---I recently told a friend that God would see me through it, and she told me, God's not gonna do it for you, you have to do it yourself. I told her i'm trying... but what she said makes me feel like maybe she is right.. maybe its up to me and God isn't gonna drag me through it, God isn't gonna just magically get me there, God isn't gonna DO THIS for me. But then that goes against everything I believe.. isn't he in control?
But then again, Is thinking hes fully in control just an excuse for me not to try? Am I using the idea that God is fully in control as a reason to just be lazy? Am i being lazy? What is wrong with me? Heh.............. >.>
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Hi Alex, when I read the your questions above in bold, these verses came to mind.
Phi 2:13
(KJV) For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.
(BBE) For it is God who is the cause of your desires and of your acts, for his good pleasure.
Phi 4:13
(KJV) I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
The "I can do" part of that verse should not be taken lightly. It doesn't tell us we can do "all things" as in, take off flying like Super Man, no, it tells us that what we are able to do is done through Christ and most importantly to answer your questions above, "we" are going to "do" the "doing" or a better word for that might be "the act" of what ever it is we are accomplishing in our daily lives.
Phi. 4:8
(CEV) Finally, my friends, keep your minds on whatever is true, pure, right, holy, friendly, and proper. Don't ever stop thinking about what is truly worthwhile and worthy of praise.
I don't know if the CEV gives a good interpretation of Phi 4:8 or not but, I sure like the words it uses regardless of that. In a nut shell, IF we are thinking on these things, in your case, to be a Pediatrician, then the distractions (TV,video games and the like) don't or will not stand a chance to interfere with our goals. I know that is easier said than done but that's the reality of it. We do have to make the choice to do the right thing or not to.
I sincerely hope for you that God gives you the strength to overcome the distractions, stay focused like a laser on task and reach your goal.
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Thank you Stacey.
lilitalienboi16:
--- Quote from: Dennis Vogel on June 23, 2011, 05:51:09 AM ---I'm curious, why do you want to be a doctor? Is it to please someone other than yourself? Is it for the money (nothing wrong with that)? Is it for the title "Dr."?
The fact that you tried very hard and you did not do well tells me you either do not have the talent for it or do not have a burning desire to be a doctor, or if you do have a strong desire, that desire could be coming from the wrong place for wrong reasons.
Over the years I've worked with various engineers. But most of them should not have been engineers. They simply do not have the talent for it. They were/are not mechanically inclined. They went to school, learned how to do the calculations, graduated, got jobs, and spent a lifetime doing something that was just a job, and not doing it very well.
One of my best friends is the best engineer I know (or he knows) and he never had any engineering schooling. He has to constantly clean up after engineers with degrees. He has a God given talent for engineering built into his brain.
I believe in aptitude tests. They will tell you what talents you may want to develop. A good test will tell you about your people skills, mechanical abilities, artistic talent, and so on.
You don't have to do what the test says you would be best at. It just gives you an idea where your talents lay.
Back in the 1970's when I was living in the Detroit area, I worked very hard, built up a good business and was making a very good living. Then through circumstances (mostly the oil embargo) I lost just about everything.
At the time it was the worst thing that happened in my 30 years of life. But now, in hindsight it was one of the best things that ever happened. It got me out of Detroit, I moved to Mobile where I met Ray Smith, etc.
Not getting into your school could be a real blessing in disguise. You may end up doing something you're good at and you really love to do.
I'm just suggesting you may want to re-evaluate what it is you want to do. That's all.
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Well I don't know where my life is going so I can't look back and see what is the best thing in my life to have happened to me and what is the worst, like you can.
I also don't know what else I would do with my life as I'm not very good at anything to be honest. I'm pretty average when it comes to just about anything you can think of, I really don't know what I do well.
As for wanting to be a dr, it was something I decided at the age of I'd say 19 or 20. My dad is a DR. so of course there is some pressure there, but I don't want to say its the reason I wanted to do it. Of course his influence in my life was part of a cause or reason to drive me in this direction but truly in the end I think it came from within to want to do this. I desperately wanted to be able to help people, to reach out to people and show them Gods love, I also felt that there was no better place to do this then within a hospital. Another reason was just to be able to literally and physically save them from death. These desires still exist, but it's like when you lose over and over again, and you get beat down so bad.. you just kind of think your not worthy enough to do that or you just give up sort of, if that makes any sense. And maybe I'm not meant to do that, it was just a desire that really drove me in this direction and as I said, those desires are still there, its just that i feel like everything is just out of reach as far as that's concerned.
And maybe you're right, in fact you're probably right that I'm just not cut out to do that kind of thing with my life. Or maybe im feeling sorry for myself, I can't figure out which one it is at this moment, lol. But to be honest I Have no clue which direction to go in my life from here if this isn't the path for me, which i'm willing to accept with the recent things i've experienced that it might very well not be. I suppose only God knows, I just wish He would come and tell me which way to go from here. Do I continue forward? Do I search else where? Do I just simply stop here and wait for Him?
Im trying to put a lot of thought and effort into this responce so i can really get across what I'm thinking and feeling inside. But yea.. i've never really like thought of anything else I could do with my life and honestly I don't think I have really any specific talents that would allow me to fit nicely into some field.
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