Odading, now we may be getting down to the root. You believe that God 'intervenes' miraculously, and that the rest of the time, things happen according to the laws of cause and affect. Either way--end of FREE will--no such thing.
You are correct that the scripture about hairs does not say God commands each one to fall. He does know, we can understand from that verse alone. But consider what scripture DOES say.
Eph 1:7-11 ...according to the riches of His grace which He caused to abound toward us in all wisdom and understanding, making known to us the mystery of His will, according to His good pleasure which He purposed in Himself, for the administration of the fullness of the times to head up all things in Christ, both the things in the heavens, and the things on earth, in Him, in whom we also have been chosen to an inheritance, being predestinated according to the purpose of the
One working all things according to the counsel of His own will...
If the Butterfly Effect (the notion that the flapping of a butterfly's wing in one part of the world causes a flood in another part of the world) is true, then even the falling of our hairs might be part of the overall plan and purpose of God. The verse itself is 'about' His care and Love.
We are not 'programmed' to love God, or to obey Him. If anything, we are 'programmed' to NOT love God nor obey Him. We HAVE to go through this in order to develop the character of God. We WILL learn to do the will of the Father and we WILL come to love Him with all our hearts. Not because we always wanted to--we don't even know who He is until He tells us--but because He first loved us. In this way, He IS guiding us as a parent would--if the parent was Almighty God and the child was destined to be in His image. We may coddle and protect infants, but it takes some suffering to mature when we've grown up a little.
1Jn 4:9,10 By this was the love of God revealed in us, because God has sent His only-begotten Son into the world, so that we should live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son [as] a propitiation [or, appeasing sacrifice] concerning our sins. When was this Love revealed? In Eden? In Israel? They are just shadows of the reality. I have a feeling--though don't take it as theology--that God 'grieved' in part, because the time had not yet come when He could express (reveal) the Love He has.
I don't think we know the
external will of God at any single moment. It
seems like it can veer off in any direction, though it will always be the way He foreknew and pre-ordained. That's why we walk by faith. I don't believe we can know the will of God for the future, unless it's revealed to us--again, by faith. I do believe we can know the will of God as it has already happened, but that too requires faith. It's looking back that reveals it, even if it's not in full.
To be honest, I think 'we' see more evidence of the 'miraculous' than you might imagine. We're coming to know a God who is not outside His creation, peeking in from time to time and tweaking things, but it takes more than a few verses to see that. The SUM of His word is truth.
You already understand that there is only so much the forum can do. There's only so much it's designed to do. I wish I could answer your question about the verses in Jeremiah directly. Maybe somebody else can. But if you would like to pose the question to Ray, I'd be more than happy to help you put it into more standard English, if I can and you want.
Side note: I understand poor connections. I had a 28.8k dialup connection when I first was on B-T. It took me a month's worth of trying to stream enough 'video' to even get much of a glimpse at what he looked like.
There are transcripts of all or most of the 'talks' too. Let us know which one, and we can link directly, or you can poke around here:
http://forums.bible-truths.com/index.php/board,12.0.html