Dennis that is a heartbreaker of a story. As you said, we need empathy and understanding, for each other, as we are all in this together.
I just did not think River was condemning anyone. I really don't perhaps I am wrong. I think he was pointing out the what the scripture says.
Clearly, you ex wife broke these laws, causing incredible pain. SO the law, not to do those things, is good. If she would of obeyed, it would of saved you a whole lot of pain.
I think that is my point. Is the Law bad? No, it is a schoolmaster, to show how we all need a saviour, we all need Jesus. I think God will hold all of us accountable for what we do, we will give an account. To tell someone what they are doing is wrong, is not an evil. If you were being condemned for the actions of another, that is unjust. Do you not think God is going to make you ex give account? Like we all will? And will he not require you to forgive (as I am sure you already have)
I just didn't see a spirit of condemnation, but I could be completely wrong. And if I am doing something evil, like your ex wife is did, then she should of repented if someone told her what she was doing was evil. Even if she didn't care to hear it, that will be part of what needs to be used in judgement. JMHO.
Yes, we are are being broken into powder. Some ways are very painful. Your story is a very tough one and that was very close to any "hell", no doubt.
NOTE..not part of this discussion....As an aside, an edit, I just want to point out that perhaps I am a little hypersensitive to the use of the judge not scripture, because it is used everywhere, everybody, if any type of restriction or label is put on their behaviour. Every type of behaviour is excused by the ungodly by this scripture, if you try to point out the Scriptures say some things are sins. Also, I have learned to have a thick skin, that if someone points out to me my shortcomings, I truly try to evaluate the merit in the claim. If the claim has no merit, then I just leave it in the hands of God. If it has merit, I try to change and repent.