Hi ez2u,
I can see how male and female have been created with different thought processes, we just look at things differently. Just a very basic idea of a much more complicated subject, women seem to be more sensitive to feelings and emotions in problem solving, men seems to consider rational and logical more. We also have different communication styles, men tend to be introspective, internalizing and thinking through problems, where as women tend to use discussion as a way to figure out a solution.
When not understood these differences can cause frustration and misunderstanding, as both are working against each other in trying to apply their method to the other. But when understood and used in harmony these differences can be a asset to the relationship. Together the two male and female minds actually become a whole and have all the essentials and work much better in dealing with life circumstances. So I believe a partnership of male and female becomes a complete being when working together in harmony. That's what I think is meant when God said "they shall become one flesh."
Gen 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Bottom line question is what do you think is the most important elements in a relationship between us human beings?
Working together, instead of against each other. Now this is requires, as Dave said "Love, followed close behind by humility, peace and patience." And I think these elements of the fruit of the spirit are rarely (if ever) applied by both in a marriage relationship. Maybe there are moments when each will apply one of these fruits to a degree, but not consistently and it's not enough for them to really see the beauty of what there could be.
No, usually what we see is the lack of understanding and the unwillingness to give proper consideration to the other gender. We just throw our hands up in the air and say 'can't be figured out.' Again those elements that Dave gave "Love, followed close behind by humility, peace and patience" applied by both would go a long way to give us the relationship/partnership that is intended. Just wanted to say what I was thinking on this.
mercy, peace and love
Kat