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GaryK:
--- Quote from: Headdy82 on February 05, 2013, 11:42:48 PM ---
I have been on an amazing journey since the Lord has guided me to truths. I understand that I will face trials and tribulations and judgements for everything I do. The one thing I have a hard time with is just giving it up. What I mean is I am a control freak...this is the beast I want to defeat. It is like..."how can I let Jesus manifest himself in me if I don't turn to him and stop trying to control everything! " I know that I cant purge the carnal mind out of me. I know God can. I struggle with this so much because every situation that comes about, I have the tendency to take control especially in ones that I know I have no control over. Ray has talked about the " beast within" . Now I don't know if I totally understand it all, but it seems they the little.me is sitting on my throne and mocking me and it doesn't want to back down. Ugh....I need some etification from another true believe that is maybe going through what I am. If I explained it enough to understand. :-X
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From one control freak to another: it is what it is and it'll change when it changes and you'll control none of it.
Read Ray:
"So why do most Christian hate the fact that God has a plan for their life that is beyond their own control? It all has to do with the unconverted, carnal mind, which hates God, and hates His spiritual Law."
http://bible-truths.com/lake15-B.html
"Absolutely nothing can be "added to or taken from" what is taking place in each and every reader at this very moment. God will either cause you to accept these truths at this "appointed time" in your life, or He will cause you to reject these truths at this "appointed time" in your life, and your "will" is not "free" to do either. It is all of God! The circumstances are already set in motion which will bring about God’s desired intentions. Individually, however, each one will have perfectly reasonable and rational reasons for his or her decision.
Those who accept this Truth will have rational reasons to voluntarily do so. Likewise those who reject it will have equally reasonable objects (to them they will be reasonable) for not accepting what they are reading. Amazing, isn’t it?"
http://bible-truths.com/lake15-D.html
You're going through nothing more than all of us have or will go through at some point. Relax about it, give it time. You'll see Ray's explanation of scripture is true.
GaryK:
--- Quote from: John from Kentucky on February 08, 2013, 03:12:05 PM ---
Hey is that you gk? Wasn't Horseman your moniker from times past? I like it and your avatar. Reminds me of John Wayne (after Duke died I stopped watching movies).
Duke had a nasty faced macho dog in the movie 'Hondo" and also in 'Big Jake'. The good old days. I look around today and see a world full of wimps. Makes you want to spit. ;D
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;)
Headdy82:
Thanks everyone. To shorty, I do try not to show any anger in front of my kids. I find myself getting out and walking more which helps. I find myself talking to the Lord and venting to him a lot. A lot! I know I just need to be patient and just relax. Ray has such great spiritual truths that have helped me. But I know I still have a carnal mind which imprisoned me in certain situations. It is just hard going through it. Just wanted some etification from fellow believers. :)
Headdy82:
I meant ray revealed some good truths that I have been guided myself from God.
Gina:
:) Sounds to me like you've been very patient. I'm really sorry you're going through that. I imagine you feel trapped. I really hope that if you do have to dissolve the marriage, that you and your children will not be burdened by guilt or worry in any way, shape or form. Who knows. Maybe he will come to see the light and feel sorry for the things he has done and you two can become friends again. Marriage is so hard. I truly commend you for sticking it out as long as you have.
Anyway, Ray spoke about this very subject in his Destiny of Women study:
--- Quote ---Let’s go back to Ephesians so I can clear something up really fast here.
Eph 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
v. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife….
How? To lord it over her, to be the boss, to crack the whip, to insult her, to have her walk 3 paces behind him, to cover her face with a veil in public, like the Muslims? Is that what it means?
Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
v. 24 Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
This is not as bad as it sounds, it is not nearly as bad as it might sound to you women. You are subject to your husbands, in the same way that your husband and the church is subject to Jesus Christ. Now let’s ask ourselves is that a bad thing? That the church should be subject to Jesus Christ, is that a bad thing? Well of course not. First of all it puts Jesus Christ in the seat of responsibility, He has to love, provide and protect His church. Is that not comforting?
What is the analogy of the husband to the wife then? The same thing. The husband is to love, provide and protect his wife. This is a beautiful thing! This is not chauvinistic and there are lessons to be learned for both. Men should learn the finer traits of femininity. Women should learn the virtuous quality of masculinity.
The perfect balance in all of this is Jesus Christ, who created them both. If Jesus Christ created man and woman, male and female, don’t you think He drew upon something to come up with what they are? The creation came out of the mind of God. So there is no inequality there. They are both to learn. Just because the man is over the wife and the wife is subject to the husband, is not a degrading position anymore than the church being subject to Christ is a degrading position. It is a very honorable position. Can we not agree on that?
But I know what some of you are thinking, ‘but you don’t know my husband, he ain’t no Christ.’ I do know that. But Christ will deal with your husband if he uses or abuses you or whatever. By the way, there is no law in the scripture that says a husband can use and abuse his wife and children and she has to put up with it. The husband is not the god over the woman and she has rights.
You know it says, except for fornication, she be put away, you that commit adultery (Matt 5:32). So is that the only thing that can dissolve a marriage, adultery? Well actually it doesn’t say adultery, it says fornication and if you’re married, you can’t commit fornication, I mean not technically. If you’re married you can only, technically, commit adultery you see.
But the word fornication comes from the Greek word ‘porneia,’ like pornography - porneia.
It can mean a whole host of sins - immorality. If a husband will not provide for his family, Paul said he’s worse that an infidel. I mean he’s worse than if he had no religion at all, worse. That’s immorality, that grounds for leaving your husband. If he abuses the children, that’s porneia, that’s grounds for leaving your husband. If he beats you, that’s porneia, that’s immorality, that grounds for leaving.
Now don’t try to stretch your mind as to how thin you can take that. Like, ‘he said a cross word to me, I think Ray was saying that would probably be porneia.’ No, I’m talking about real abuse. You don’t need to stay in an abusive relationship, where you are beaten, where the children are abused, where your husband runs around like an ally cat, those all come under porneia - immorality. So God did not stick you in a situation that would be sheer hell and allowed no way to get out, He did not.
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I hope that helps you feel a little less burdened and a little more edified. God bless you and yours, Headdy. :)
Gina
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