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loretta:
Now my six year old is being disobedient, inspite of my stern words. ::)  She was reprimanded for throwing sand from the sand pit all over the garden.  Ofcourse she gets carried away when her friends come around but yesterday they threw sand right over the wall onto a passing scooterist who came in to settle accounts!

Does anybody favor corporal punishment?  When I was in Christendom there were folks who went strictly by the good book and they believed that if young children weren't taught to obey their parents who represented God here on earth then they wouldn't obey God when they were adults.  And the rod was the best way for really disobedient kids. First it had to be an established family practice, discussed and accepted by all in the family.  Then the child had to be warned and finally it had to be administered by the head of the family, in privacy, not in random anger, but in a determined but loving way, on the bottom. It had to hurt so that the child remembered.  Lastly the child had to be comforted and reminded of the reason for the punishment.  I thought it made sense, but I never had the heart to practice it. 

Now I'm not so sure about the logic.

What is the spiritual meaning for Proverbs 13:24?

Craig:

--- Quote ---Does anybody favor corporal punishment?
--- End quote ---

Yes

arion:
For willful disobedience a definite yes!!  She is testing the limits and if you don't set boundaries she can't cross her disobedience will probably get worse.  If you look at it this way, the parent isn't called to be the child's friend...at least not until the child is an adult.  The parent needs to be the parent.  And doesn't God deal with us in the exact same fashion?  If we are willfully disobedient doesn't he sometimes use remedies in the physical realm to get our attention?  Even God uses corporal 'chastisement' but it's only for our benefit.  If our hearts are the same towards our children and we administer the chastisement out of love and for the child's betterment then it needs to be done regardless of what society may think.  One of the reasons imo that kids are so out of control is that parents have pretty much done away with spankings.

Extol:
Spanking was superbly effective with my brothers and me. . . especially when we would do the deed during the day, and have to wait all afternoon until my father got home to punish it. Oh, what an agonizing wait! As a result, each of us got only a handful of spankings throughout our childhood years. The terror of the wooden spoon was enough to keep us very well-behaved.  8)

John from Kentucky:
When I was a boy, we did not have ADHD, or whatever they call it when women can't get boys to behave.

We had strange creatures called "fathers".

I remember one time when I could not hear my mother.  It wasn't my fault!  I was either deaf, or I had that ADHD stuff, but I couldn't hear her when she told me to do something.

Well, my father cured me of my illness.  He laid hands on me!  Shazaam!  I was healed.  Praise You Jesus.

From that time on, I was able to hear my mother when she told me to do something.  My speech was also restored, and I could say 'yes Ma'am' when she requested some action from me.

I know the old days were evil and barbaric, and we're so advanced in the 21st Century.  But fathers had a wonderful healing effect on sons.

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