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Borderline Personality Disorder, Psychosis or Pure Evil?
arion:
My struggle right now is , how do I love this personification of evil?
You don't love the evil of course and just having a mental condition is no excuse for bad behavior either. Those who are struggling with these things sometimes get so wrapped up in themselves that they really don't understand how it's affecting another loved one. Depending on the situation sometimes strict limits need to be imposed....tough love if you will.
If the OP is a spouse there may be times where you simply need to take some time away for your own mental health. Your not doing the spouse any good if your emotionally exhausted in the process and that is where the tough love comes in, in order to make the other person aware that there is more than one side to the relationship. And as Ray has taught before in one of his audios if a relationship is truly abusive, God hasn't said we need to sit there and take getting beaten for example.
If the OP is a child, other relative or a friend I think that too is where tough love and behavior limits come into play. The other person either may not know how the behavior is being perceived or aware of how hurtful it is. OTOH they may know how bad the behavior and how hurtful it is but in their current mental state they might not just care too much. I think that boundaries and limitations are extremely important and once again God never said you had to be a punching bad either literally or figuratively.
A medical workup may be helpful because I do think in some cases there may be an organic problem within the brain that perhaps a medication might help. The basic problem I have with most meds for all medical conditions is the meds seem to mask the symptoms but never fix what is wrong. In the [few] cases where there is indeed an imbalance in the brain chemistry the meds might turn a corner.
For those [such as myself] where there is no physical organic cause and the problem is psychological and/or spiritual in nature the person involved is as much in the dark as to their behavior and why they react the way they do as you are. But again, that is where some tough love and limits need to come into play. You can love the other person but not the behavior. In many ways what I deal with is much easier as I have no relationship with anyone else where my behavior and lack of empathy at times can hurt someone else. I interact with people at work on a professional level and then the rest of my life is just me and the dog and I'm content with that.
As you can see I interact just fine on the Internet and can be conversational and perhaps helpful through dialog with the safety of the keyboard and computer screen but face to face would be totally different. I would probably just clam up and try to get away from you as quickly as I could within the bounds of civility. You see....it's not your problem, it's my problem. Don't own the situation because you can't and it's hurtful for you.
More than anything as we all know here God is in control, he is sovereign in his creation and we all have different things on our plate. I would rather deal with what I'm dealing with instead of looking at what Ray had to deal with the last few years of his life. I don't know why God choose to have Ray deal with terminal cancer any more than I know what I have to deal with seemingly terminal psychological issues. But what I do know is that God has promised to make me, you, your loved ones and everyone reading this thread into the image of his dear son. With some of us he's working on us right now. With others he has put them on the shelf as it were and will work on them through his Son and the very elect of God in the ages to come. However he does it, it will all work out in the end and of this I am convinced.
God bless!!
John from Kentucky:
I don't believe in all the mental illnesses so-called experts have come up with.
In modern times, evil has become a disease. It's not people's fault. They blame some disease.
Alcoholics can't help themselves. It is a disease.
Homosexuality is no longer even considered a mental aberration. The experts say it is now normal. That they should be allowed to be "married". ;D
Whatever our problems are. And we all have problems and sins. We all need salvation from them. Salvation in the Greek Scriptures means healing.
We all need healing from mental and physical illness, from relationship problems, from financial problems, from all the heartaches of the human heart.
Only Jesus is Savior. Only Jesus will heal us. And He will do so at the appointed times.
loretta:
--- Quote from: Arion on March 17, 2014, 06:31:23 AM ---But what I do know is that God has promised to make me, you, your loved ones and everyone reading this thread into the image of his dear son. With some of us he's working on us right now. With others he has put them on the shelf as it were and will work on them through his Son and the very elect of God in the ages to come. However he does it, it will all work out in the end and of this I am convinced.
--- End quote ---
Arion and others who may be suffering from any mental illness, my apologies. You are not the personification of evil. Just like the rest of us, you have the beast within, maybe just a little more active. In His time and in His way, God will deal with that beast. That is the good news.
Thanks again, Arion. As I struggle to separate the beauty from the beast, you have shown me that people with emotional dysregulation do have hearts that can be graced by God. God bless you too.
--- Quote from: John from Kentucky on March 18, 2014, 12:56:11 PM ---Only Jesus is Savior. Only Jesus will heal us. And He will do so at the appointed times.
--- End quote ---
I don't know how I would have dealt with all this revelation about bpd had I not known the truths of God. That after 16 years, God chose to show me now, is indeed a measure of His love and concern for me. Right now I am grieving for what will probably never be. But I am also joyful, because I know that this age is not for me. I'm excited to see what God is preparing us for, in the age to come. :)
For others who may be struggling with this relatively unknown condition, here are some resources that are helpful
When Hope Is Not Enough. A how-to guide for living with and loving someone
with Borderline Personality Disorder
http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/when-Hope-is-Not-Enough-ebook.pdf
Two sets of four rules that make relationships with Borderlines easier for the Non-BP
http://www.anythingtostopthepain.com/wp-content/uploads/4x4ebook.pdf
Stop Walking on Eggshells. Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
http://www.bpdcentral.com/store/stop-walking-on-eggshells/prod_14.html
Online Communities for support
http://www.bpdcentral.com/support-groups/
http://groups.google.com/group/ATSTPGroup/
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