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MY NIECES WEDDING!?
jeetkunejimi:
Hi all, I have a small dilemma and I'm wondering if anyone on the forum can help me. My niece is getting married next year and she has sent me an invitation, the seeming problem is that she's marrying another woman :o. I feel in my heart that I should have no problem going and supporting her on a very important day to her and her partner but, I also feel uneasy that I will also be in some way supporting gay marriage... which I don't. I feel that it's important that I show her how much I love her and also how much I love her mother, (my sister of course) who will expect me to attend along with my brother who is also a very strong Christian believing as I do.
I will of course be making my own decision as will my brother but, it's always good to seek wise counsel. Thanks for any constructive and scriptural input that any of you may have that could help me decide.
God bless :).
lilitalienboi16:
--- Quote from: jeetkunejimi on August 27, 2016, 06:22:29 PM ---Hi all, I have a small dilemma and I'm wondering if anyone on the forum can help me. My niece is getting married next year and she has sent me an invitation, the seeming problem is that she's marrying another woman :o. I feel in my heart that I should have no problem going and supporting her on a very important day to her and her partner but, I also feel uneasy that I will also be in some way supporting gay marriage... which I don't. I feel that it's important that I show her how much I love her and also how much I love her mother, (my sister of course) who will expect me to attend along with my brother who is also a very strong Christian believing as I do.
I will of course be making my own decision as will my brother but, it's always good to seek wise counsel. Thanks for any constructive and scriptural input that any of you may have that could help me decide.
God bless :).
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Wedding ceremony is the celebration of a union between two people.
I would not attend the celebration of a union which God has condemned time and time again.
We had a VERY LONG thread about this once upon a time which I had started, it may help you to read through it and see what was brought up for discussion.
http://forums.bible-truths.com/index.php/topic,16110.0.html
The thread is very helpful in my humble opinion.
God bless,
Alex
John from Kentucky:
I do not have free will. But God does allow me to make choices.
I choose not to associate with anyone who lives in obvious opposition to the Scriptures.
Which is one reason I do not attend a Christian or any other kind of church.
Following God's Way, by His Grace, as He directs my way, has made me a stranger and sojourner on the earth. Not friends with the Many. I do not care what people think of me. I would not want it any other way.
lostANDfound:
Last night I spent a few hours reading that thread that Alex mentioned and now it's 4:30am and I can't sleep because it's going around in my head. So perhaps typing out my little story can clarify the matter for some people. My dad performed the ceremony at my wedding, and he is an unusually humble and wise preacher *in some areas*, even though he is still in Babylon. Since my wedding I have had many people come up to me and tell me how his sermon changed the way they think of marriage and how they attend weddings. He spoke about every person present being witness to our marriage, not just on that day but from that day forward. He said that as witnesses they are no longer "for" Vicki (me) or "for" Mike (my husband), they are now called to be for the union of us, as we are one. With tears in his eyes he told that crowd of people that if his little girl comes to him, as I have so many times before, to tell my story and seek his counsel, he will have to school himself to set aside his urge to take my side, and instead seek the best for our union, our marriage. And he called each person there to do the same for us, and for every couple that they witness being married.
I hope this helps. Good night.
jeetkunejimi:
Thank you for your replies so far. My issue here is one of love, love which never fails. My niece has invited me to her wedding because she wants me to be there because she loves me. Why should I think that my sins are whiter than her sins just because she is a lesbian who wants to be in a monogamous relationship with another woman because they love one another and want to declare their love for one another publically. I've been married 18 years to my wife and I have most certainly looked at other women at times sexually. That makes me an adultery according to Christ. So who am I to judge??? I also lie from time to time, think badly of other people, swear when I'm angry, etc, etc. What a wretched man I am without Christ to renew me.
I believe that all things happen for a reason and that God is over everything. I feel that I have to show my beautiful niece compassion and love at this time and not a school master mentality. She's not asking me to go on a 'Gay Pride' march which I wouldn't do because I'm not gay and I hate walking, she's just asking me to be there for her to show my love and consideration to her, when she needs it most on her wedding day. I believe that God knows my motives and my heart and what I'm trying to do when I try to do the right thing. In life not everything is always black-and-white. We have to realise that we're just puny humans doing our best in a world that we can rarely control.
If I don't show her my love towards her and how proud I am of her, of how beautiful a person she has grown up to become, then I feel that I will have failed to show her Christ in me. My witness to her of the love of Christ that is in me will have turned her off! I have to believe that God is working in my niece's life and He will bring her one day through Christ to spiritual completion just as He will faithfully do with all mankind.
Jesus sat with landlords and protected prostitutes, etc, Jesus healed people and told them to "go away and sin no more", knowing full well that they would. Jesus raised people from the dead knowing full well that they'd only end up dying again. Jesus always loved us and always will love us all, even though we sinned before we were made as he is. He gave up his life here on earth so that we could all have our sins wiped away soon. Jesus attended a wedding where the wine ran out and he turned water into wine so that everyone could continue to celebrate and be merry and so that the hosts would not be embarrassed about not having enough of something. This is the compassion Jesus has shown me and that I must never forget. I want to go to her wedding not to show my support for gay marriage but to show my support for her! She knows full well that I don't agree with gay marriage or church but, I must not only go the extra mile, I must also not turn away from lending my niece my time.
(Matt 5:41-42)
41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him two miles.
42 Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away.
If I'm not there for her on her wedding day then I think that I will regret it for the rest of my life and I don't want to do that to myself or her or her partner, I couldn't be that self absorbed and mean. I'm the one called to a higher standard here by God, I have by His grace been given eyes to see some truths that He has allowed me to see thus far, others including my niece have not as of yet. I have to be the one here as well as my brother also who has too, "forgive them for they know not what they do".
I hope that people understand my decision and once again thank you for your input guys it has actually helped me especially reading through the gay marriage thread.
God be with us all as we try to do what's best from day to day knowing that when we fail Christ is there to carry us because he first loved us and his love never fails. Amen.
Sincerely,
Jimi :).
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