Thank you for your kind words Dave and God bless you.
I lost my father in 1998 and it was very hard. My prayers go out to you.
My mother is in the beginning stages of Alzheimer's and she is losing her memory. She knows she can't remember things and she is afraid and it hurts to see her like that.
I think what God is teaching me now through this is that his will and his purpose does not make me a victim. If I believe that God is good then I should agree that all that God causes is good according to his plan and purpose. I think God is moving me away from feeling victimized by his plan and moving me into believing that all is a part of the plan and his plan is good.
The scripture you used "what has the pot have to say to the potter, why have you made me this way, or what right do we have to question anything God does" even makes it clearer to me.
Each pot is created to fulfill the purpose and plan of God. Every circumstance is designed to fulfill God's will and purpose and plan. I went through a time when I questioned how God can choose to call some out and not others when we are all equally loved and all equally sinners. He doesn't choose us for who we are. He made us who we are and raised us up for the very purpose we serve in his plan. He created us to be called out in this age.
This is the very thing that shows me there is no hell. How can it be just to choose who goes to heaven and who goes to hell when we are all made exactly who we are to fulfill his purpose? If we have broken the least of the commandments we are guilty of breaking all of them. That puts us all on equal ground as far as law breakers and the penalty is death. God called us out to be saved (being saved) in this age. It is not our choice and we can't make that choice.
John 15:16
Ye did not choose me, but I chose you, and appointed you, that ye should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should abide:
Romans 9:16-18
16So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
17For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth.
18Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth.
Matthew 4
18And Jesus, walking by the sea of Galilee, saw two brethren, Simon called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea: for they were fishers.
19And he saith unto them, Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.
20And they straightway left their nets, and followed him.
21And going on from thence, he saw other two brethren, James the son of Zebedee, and John his brother, in a ship with Zebedee their father, mending their nets; and he called them.
22And they immediately left the ship and their father, and followed him.
Matthew 9:9
And as Jesus passed forth from thence, he saw a man, named Matthew, sitting at the receipt of custom: and he saith unto him, Follow me. And he arose, and followed him.
Romans 8:28
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Ephesians 1:8-10
8Wherein he hath abounded toward us in all wisdom and prudence;
9Having made known unto us the mystery of his will, according to his good pleasure which he hath purposed in himself:
2 Timothy 1
10That in the dispensation of the fulness of times he might gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven, and which are on earth; even in him:
7For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
8Be not thou therefore ashamed of the testimony of our Lord, nor of me his prisoner: but be thou partaker of the afflictions of the gospel according to the power of God;
9Who hath saved us, and called us with an holy calling, not according to our works, but according to his own purpose and grace, which was given us in Christ Jesus before the world began