Hey Brian, that's got to be really painful after 38 years in the church! I was just going to say that I really like what you wrote, because people say the same thing to me, and I was like "you miss me in church....what about OUTSIDE the church?" (I haven't said this to anyone yet, but I am going to...)
They miss you in the church, but that's it. I know it is their way of maybe connecting or whatever, and some do mean it. But it should make them think-call me at home! Or whatever....
Kat, your post was excellent! Exactly what I have thought as well, the social aspect/clique thing....some of the best "Christians" (specially the kids) are absolutely horrid human beings, and won't even acknowledge someone outside their social "class"....God forbid a homeless or hurting human being should ever come their way!
Patrick-same thing. They will read the material with glaze over their eyes, and just nod, and then either never mention it, or just say that they believe the bible with hell right there in it!
Arcturus, I too wanted man's approval, and didn't want to rock the boat. I still struggle with being a people pleaser, instead of pleasing God. I lead worship in a little church for about 3 years, and now when I look back, I feel sick about all of it.
Know that you're helping us by sharing what's going on, and hopefully you feel encouraged, strengthened, and are going to be a light to your church....James