Hi Gena,
I sympathize with your situation. Going against the flow is not easy
I too am in a difficult situation.
I was in a church 10 yrs ago, where we did not celebrate christmas at all,
I was in that church for 15 yrs, not keeping christmas.
But I left and went back to a mainstream church, and gradually but totally was involved with christmas again, that's been the last 10yrs.
So now I have to stop all over again, and my 3 girls (17,19,and 23) are not happy about it.
Well, it was kinda simple for me, I just told them I would not do any of it myself,
but they could do it all on there own and I would not oppose them.
It really does not bother me that other people, even my girls, want to do it.
I feel like it really matters how I deal with the situations as they come along.
I love my family and I will not try to force them to do or even understand, what I have to do.
So just do what you feel is the right thing, God will guide you as you go.
Hope you can have peace and trust God to help you through it.
mercy, peace, and love
Kat