Keys,
I can relate totally with what you are going through! You see, at this very time last year, God had pulled ME out of 'the church' slowly enough (for me not not get a broken heart from having to say a formal 'goodbye' to all there whom I loved so much (since 'goodbyes' are so tough for me), whereas, while I kept making excuses as to why I couldn't go, my dear husband stayed on for several more months before he left for good. And I can truly tell you that had we never left, God would never have shown us these deeper truths (BT, LOF series). We could'nt understand what exactly it was that HE was trying to show us or where HE wanted us to be or where HE wanted us to go, but, all of the pieces started showing a much better picture than what we had ever seen before. And, here we are, a year later and ...as Paula says...'ALL IS GOOD'! Even though alot of our 'friends' loved us only b/c we believed as they believed (doctrinally.) lol
(Last year I would stay at home from 'going to church' just so I could read the Bible Truths' web site.) The info at BT had set us free slowly; until we as a family had finally 'come out of her my people' (out of the church). God did an awesome spiritual transition in our lives by taking us out of there before HE replaced this new info/rtruth within us; It's as if HE wanted us emptied of that stale spiritual food that we had been getting before HE would fill us up with the truth! Ha, there is really no comparison now that I can look back. HE is so smooth and calculated and pefect in HIS timing within each of our lives.
Our 'church' too was going through some major changes; only they were 'bucking' what God was trying to show them, so times got tough for all of us and sadly they are spiritually the same, no changes, no progress. You are correct when you say that you don't want to be called all of those prior names that every denominatin goes by; same here; we are just BELEIVERS. (We had asked the top 4 'leaders' as to what type of denomination they called this and all four had extremely different answers for that simple question, thus... no unity iun the leadership.) But, my dear friend, do not be surprised if you do get the cold shoulder; which I hope you don't get. (We had relationships with those members from anywhere from 25 yrs and 10yrs and less; and to this very day...not one of them is in out life!!! Maybe time will change that, but, there is no more unity with them. (Even this disapointment was still all in Gods' plans for me and my family!) You see, Truth will put enmity between you and those whom have only a 'form ' of Godliness. I think that this is the 'natural' consequence that occurs between those who are searching for truth with all of their hearts and those whom are not wanting to change and conform to HIS ways.) If this happens to you Keys, just know that God had planned that to happen aforetime and that HE as well as your new spiritual family (here at BT) are here for you at all times!
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The HOLY SPIRIT is a gentlleman (if you will)
, HE will not give a person anymore than you are wanting when it comes to the truth. He will not force anything on someone that they do not want or that they are not ready for; so, as for your wife; she will leave in GODs' timing,( usally when she sees more truth elsewhere than where she is currently.)
My prayers are with you friend!