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rick:
How long should a person allow grown children to live in their home rent free?????how about step-children,should it matter????

YellowStone:
Rick,

Only you can know the answer to this. :) I personlly believe that children should leave the house by the time they are twenty; although this does not mean that they are never welcome back, just that they should be thinking (wanting) to move out by then. :)

I know of people who are still living with their parents or parent in their 30's, but every situation is different and must be weighed on its own merit. Who can know whether a child is capable of living by themselves or for that matter, a parent?

Most kids don't want to come back after going to college. I never went, but I was ready to go !

Hope that helps,

Your brother in Christ.
Darren

Jackie Lee:

I wouldn't think there is a set rule, but if someones grown child is living with them I would make rules to follow.
If they didn't go by my rules I would tell them it wasn't working and ask them to leave.
Then if the grown child was respectful and pulling his weight, I would let them stay if it wasn't to inconvenient.
I would think it would be fair to ask them to pay some rent they will have to sooner or later.

iris:
I think it depends on the child and the parents. I didn't have a problem with it because all of my children were out of the house before the age of twenty. One came back for a brief period of
time when he was in his early twenties ( because of a divorce), but as soon as he found an apartment and got it all set up, he moved into his apartment.

Iris

carol v:
I would agree with all the posts that each situation and each child is different. If the child is just being lazy that's one thing but if the child is working hard and just needs some time to get on their own two feet, that's another.

I wanted to add that differentiating between a child and a stepchild is probably an area you DON'T want to go into. That's a whole new can of worms that you probably don't want to open.

carol

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