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YellowStone:
Rick,

I notice that you said that you might feel different if "they" were your own. Is the feeling that they are not yours, something from inside you, or is it that "they" do not consider you, "their" dad?

If it is the latter, then I can truly see your frustration. Because certainly, there is a difference. I really think that you should sit down with them and lay your cards on the table; it could be that they have no real idea what your real wishes are. At worst, not talking about could lead to resentment, which could lead to bridges being burned that may never be rebuilt.

God has certainly given you an extended family for a reason :) I say, let them know how you feel.

I think I read someone else recommending this too. :)

Lots of llove,
Darren

PKnowler:
Rick

I second what Darren said. I think that is good advice! Sometimes if we don't deal with something then it will just fester and could blow resulting in broken relationships.

BTW, I'm glad you put your picture up Darren. It's nice to see you!

~Paula  :)

rick:
no, they do not consider me their dad. just the guy that their mom is married to. and their mom does every thing for them like they were 10 years old. it drives me crazy

jennie:
Rick, You sound like a great step-father. I had one too but it wasn't that way. He ouldn't let my Momma give me and my brother any food even though she cooked supper every night. Before I got my work permit at 14, I baby sat for people, and picked up grocery bags of pine cones. Rich folks would pay you 10 cents a grocery bag for them. I gave the money I earned back then to my Momma to help her out and to make sure my brther would have blue jeans and all to wear. After I got my work permit I worked at a plant after school, stayed on the honor roll and used some of the paycheck to hide a little food in my closet for me and my brother and to give him lunch money for school. I don't say all that for your pity but to Let you know that some step-children have really bad , step-parents.(Ours was an alcoholic-2 quarts of vodka every 3 days, abusive physically and other ways) You seem the complete opposite and I think your children whether they are by birth or marriage, are very blessed to have you. Jennie

gmik:

--- Quote from: rick on February 28, 2007, 10:30:00 PM ---no, they do not consider me their dad. just the guy that their mom is married to. and their mom does every thing for them like they were 10 years old. it drives me crazy

--- End quote ---

"It drives me crazy"   Too funny.

Sounds like my husband and he IS their father!

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