Hi ciy,
I would like to comment on a few things in your post.
When we are focused on "Who is my brother?' We are yet carnal and our focus is in an old idol.
When you state "we are yet carnal," in the scripture this is referring to those who are remaining as infants in Christ on milk only, not moving on to spiritual maturity.
1Co 3:1 But I, brothers, could not address you as spiritual people, but as people of the flesh, as infants in Christ.
v. 2 I fed you with milk, not solid food, for you were not ready for it. And even now you are not yet ready,
v. 3 for you are still of the flesh. For while there is jealousy and strife among you, are you not of the flesh and behaving only in a human way?
We are to be striving towards maturity
in Christ, which is necessary to move on from being infants. WE are becoming mature by putting aside these old carnal things of the flesh.
Heb 6:1 Therefore let us leave the elementary doctrine of Christ and
go on to maturity, not laying again a foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward God,
v. 2 and of instruction about washings, the laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment.
v. 3 And this we will do if God permits.
Col 1:27 To them God chose to make known how great among the Gentiles are the riches of the glory of this mystery, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory.
v. 28 Him we proclaim, warning every man and teaching every man in all wisdom,
that we may present every man mature in Christ.
I need to be as good a husband to my wife as I can and then I will become like Christ." NO. You will go back to Egypt and puff up like a pharisee.
We are still physical and in so being we
do need to be striving "to be as good a husband to my wife as I can," or wife to a husband. And I do not consider that in doing so that I am getting puffed up, but rather it is helping me become more like Christ, in putting somebody else's needs before myself.
1Peter 3:1 Likewise you wives, be submissive to your husbands, so that some, though they do not obey the word, may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives,
We cannot reason out evil with a manufactured evil mind. You have to believe God. We say be balanced. You cannot, will not, ever be balanced and be able to attain that mark which is set before all of us in Christ.
Impossible.
Of course we can not attain the mark without Christ, but for those with Christ in them, well here are a few of the scripture on this.
Mat 19:26 But Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible."
Mar 9:23 And Jesus said to him, "If you can! All things are possible for one who believes."
Mar 10:27 Jesus looked at them and said, "With man it is impossible, but not with God. For all things are possible with God."
We are not still carnal minded, those with Christ in them have been buried with Christ and have a
"newness of life," not the old carnal self.
Rom 6:4 We were buried therefore with Him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life.
v. 5 For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we shall certainly be united with him in a resurrection like his.
v. 6 We know that our old self was crucified with him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin.
2Co 5:17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
I am not trying to sound harsh, I'm just seeing these things differently
mercy, peace, and love
Kat