11-9-2007
Dear Dessa,
I like Joe's story of how to handle the 'departing' ceremony.
My wife and I recently visited the local funeral director and made really simple arrangements.
We don't have much to leave our children so we are giving it to them now rather than later.
Even the title to our home was transferred three years ago to make it easier.
Losing the companionship of a loved one is difficult, so we like to think about it as a journey
in which one goes on ahead and the others catch up later. Having the knowledge that God has given us and that we have shared with our children, even though their understanding is limited, is a real blessing.
We discuss our beliefs on occasion but the real proof of God's revelation is our attitude toward life and living. It has taken most 37 years for me to learn and to convince my wife of the truth of my understanding. It has been a struggle for me but more than that it has been a reward for me to experience her loving patience and tolerance of the changes and corrections I have had to go through in my journey toward enlightenment. Believe it or not, I didn't come to this understanding overnight or in a flash. It had to be built gradually, one stone upon another until the foundation was prepared. During all of this preparation, my partner for life, had to put up with attending seventh day services, trying to tithe and fellowshipping with folks who weren't always a good example for our children. For a while there I had made up my mind that my wife and three of my kids, just weren't going to make it into God's Kingdom and that I was going to be alone for eternity. I accepted that but didn't like it.
The knowledge that there is a much better plan is a great relief, but it's still a secret that most do not share.
In one way I feel sorrow for the others, the uncalled, but in another way of thinking they are blessed to live and die in blissful ignorance. I guess it depends upon our outlook of how difficult the struggle is to examine and judge ourselves in this life and to cooperate with God's loving correction.
I really think it will be easier for them to endure the lake of spiritual fire, because all or most of their neighbors will experience it with them. At that time there will be one truth, not many.
Anyway, thank you for sharing and for all of your helpful counsel.
indianabob