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Jackie Lee:
What would anyone consider turning the other cheek?
I had some unnessary words spoken to me today, It was the hardest thing to walk away yet I did.
Should we just walk away or should we defend ourselves?
I had this happen to me before by the same person I let it build up and then one day I let her have it back, She was reduced to tears.
 I thought it would make me feel better but I just wound up apologising anyway so this time I felt confrontation should be avoided.
How do I get rid of this nasty beast inside of myself?
I want to come to a point where I am not sensitive to insensitive people. What a battle, I wonder if it will be finished in this life.

Samson:
Hello Jackie Lee,

                        Wow, Jackie, that sounds very familiar, we both should re-read Romans.12:9-12, the rest of our lives. My wife and I have difficulty with our temperment at times. We both greatly dislike injustice, double-standards, hypocrisy and unwarranted ridicule. My wife is very nice to most people, but when pushed to the limit by someones deliberate foolish nonsense and by phonies, she holds it in for so long, then look out. Yes I agree, its better to walk away( Proverbs. 17:14 ) and theirs' always that one person at work that has a talent for getting under your skin( sometimes its less grief in the long run to zip your lip or take your leave). Uncontrolled anger in the long haul is bad for our physical,emotional and spiritual health, remember all those scriptures in Proverbs that counsel us about too much anger. In my household, too much Irish, Italian and German genetics contained within. Actually its a good quality to apologize as much as possible, in the instances when dealing with the worst of the worst people, zip our lip and take our leave. Hope and pray that things go well for you in this area, please pray for me too.

                                                Your Brother in Christ, Samson.

Beloved:
We always quote the "turn the cheek par"t but forget the first part.
Why was the person being hit in the cheek for in the first place.  Read all the words

(Mat 5:38 KJVR)  Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:[/u]
(Mat 5:39 KJVR)  But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.
Jesus was talking about a means for ameliiorating the extracting of revenge

Here are the three OT references that Jesus refererred to from in EX Lev and Deut

(Exo 21:23 KJVR)  And if any mischief follow, then thou shalt give life for life,
(Exo 21:24 KJVR)  Eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot,
(Exo 21:25 KJVR)  Burning for burning, wound for wound, stripe for stripe.

(Lev 24:19 KJVR)  And if a man cause a blemish in his neighbor; as he hath done, so shall it be done to him
(Lev 24:20 KJVR)  Breach for breach, eye for eye, tooth for tooth: as he hath caused a blemish in a man, so shall it be done to him again.

(Deu 19:20 KJVR)  And those which remain shall hear, and fear, and shall henceforth commit no more any such evil among you.
(Deu 19:21 KJVR)  And thine eye shall not pity; but life shall go for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot.

Now why did Jesus say this...perhaps because he knows that we do derserve the "unecessary words" sometimes...perhaps we need to examine ourselves more closely.... sometimes we need to take it in on the chin ....perhaps she is getting back for the last lashing out that you gave?  Is this revenge eschalating on a small scale?

Rathere than "revenge" and getting your own due for her bad behavior forgive her this time ....and this time ....gently confront her in a positive and loving way. 

How many times are we to do this ,,,like Jesus told Peter.....seven time seventy

Do not hold on to any anger rather ...see her sad state... and pray for her eyes to be opened.

Beloved

Jackie Lee:
 Hi Samson, thank you your wife sounds similar to me. I for two years have been praying about this, it can be hard and yes I will pray for you and please pray for me.  :)

Thank you Beloved, you have given me something to consider, the funny thing is about one hour ago I recieved a phone call apologizing for her bad behaviour, we were able to talk and chat a bit.
I accepted with happiness.
We even said we may be able to go to the Gym together once my body heals a bit more from my accident so yes possibly these words was something I needed and was best for both of us.
This is a odd thing since I realize no one has freewill, everything is of God.

phazel:
I have wondered about that myself and I think it may have to do with each person we deal with individually.   Jesus didn't appear to turn the other cheek when admonishing the pharasees.  Yet, he did not try to avoid crucifixion beyond prayer.

This verse has me wondering about things as well.

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. (Romans 12:18)

I don't think we are necessarily to be come doormats at the whims of people around us for the sake of turning the other cheek.  I'm certain that if someone broke into my home I am not going to turn the other cheek and let them have their way.  Something tells me it is not about letting people do whatever they want to us.

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