Hello Arcturus, Phil.3:10, Bradigans & Bobby Proctor,
You guys are not going to believe this, I was working on a Post reply that would have been before Bobby Proctor and when I went to enter it, it disappeared somewhere, probably went to another Galaxy, I wrote four paragraphs, commenting on a few things, now I'm tired and will only touch on a few.
Arcturus is right regarding its' easier for a Wife to be Submissive to a Husband thats' Loving and I might add have respect(Ephesians. 5:33b) for that Husband. Now I'm referring to those who at least try to apply these Scriptures, those that don't like the example Bradigans mentioned wouldn't be applicable to them. Its' also easier for a man to Love his Wife, when she lets' him be a Man and its' easier for a Woman to have respect for her Husband, if he truly Loves her. My wife is a SMART WOMAN, because she allows me to take the lead and is a great complement and helper(Gen.2:18) and doesn't compete with me. As a result of this, SHE USUALLY GETS EVERYTHING SHE WANTS & MORE, I was taught in the past to give into your wife, as long as it doesn't violate Bible Principles, ones conscience or is a detriment to the welfare of the family. This can and unfortunately does, lead to a vicious cycle manifested in " I'll give you respect, when you give me love and vice versa".
Phil. 3:10 mentions Women being stronger, I agree with them usually being Emotionally stronger relating to dealing with peoples' nonsense, being more tolerant and patient, being better equipped at Public and Family Relations. Women are better at multi-tasking and men better at focusing intently on one thing(The Venus & Mars Syndrome). A Woman once told me that a Man is better off thinking first and emotionally second, when confronted with problems, otherwise he does very poorly and gets himself in trouble, whereas a Women can do both without saying something she might regret, I think she was referring mostly to personal relationships. And I'm certainly not the perfect Husband, although I try my best, only with Gods' help can this be accomplished.
Bradigans mentioned leading by example, thats' definetely true and if we are Harsh with our Wives, our prayers will be hindered(1Peter. 3:7b).
In conclusion again(because I lost my last Post), I'm convinced that God is training and purifying me in this area, due to my failures of the past, hopefully I'll get it right this time or I'll end up worse off than the Real Samson. Fortunately for me(this time), it seems I have my Soul-mate, compatible or evenly yoked in most areas, except the bible interest, but thats' okay. Once I was married to someone who shared the same beliefs, but we were incompatible in many other ways, leading to my demise.
Yes, Bobby Proctor, its' true, it shouldn't be contigent on Our Wife's or Husband's behavior, for that matter. Both parties have a difficult task at best, a Husbands Spiritual Head is The Christ(Perfect Example) and a Wife's Spiritual Head is a Man(someone imperfect to follow); 1Cor.11:3.
Thanks to all of you for your fine comments and assistance in this most crucial area.
Your Brother in Christ, Samson.