Thank you all so very much for your kind words. The time that you spent to post them and the thought that went behind them tells me that I am in the right place. I rarely post, but I do read a lot. I just think you are all so awesome that you would take the time to comfort a stranger in their time of need. THANK YOU!
It has been a very long day for us and I will explain, but first I wanted to answer a question that had been posted. The one major thing that happened to my daughter was when she was 6, I divorced her father. He was an alcoholic, and still is. A very good man with a big problem. This was very traumatic for her, as she perceived her life to be perfect up to this point. She has always blamed me for the divorce, and I never debated her on the issue, because I knew she loved her father. Her father has been involved in her life every other weekend. He never drank around her and I let her go with him because she needed him. About two years ago, she realized her Dad's problem and this has been very disappointing to her because she had her Dad up on a very high pedestal. Her Dad is destitute, lives in a very poor neighborhood, and basically does not have a steady source of income. We, on the other hand, have been very blessed. I have remarried, opened up three businesses with my husband, and have made a decent living. We live in a beautiful house, and she has always had very nice things...... 360 degrees from her father. This has also been my fault. Although she doesn't come out and say it, she sometimes implies it with some of the things she says to me. I think she also feels guilty that her Dad is always broke. So, when I say "no" we cannot afford that, she'll say something like "you don't know what it means to be broke, you should see my Dad." Child support is not an issue, because he cannot pay it, and we have stopped trying to enforce it long ago.
Her and my husband, her step father, have always butted heads. They love each other most of the time, but they are both very stubborn and this has been a source of great frustration for him, her and me.
I have had her in counseling twice. First when I divorced her father, so that I could help her cope with the situation, and more recently, about a year ago. The first time, the counselor said that she coping fine. The second time, the counselor assured us that she was a typical teen going through very normal emotions to very normal situations. We all went, my husband, myself, my daughter and my ex-husband.
Tonight, I had to get a police escort to go get my daughter out of a very bad situation. I got a phone call from a parent of one of her friends who informed me that she was staying in a vacant apartment with a bunch of other kids and they were about to get arrested for trespassing. Of course, this is not the story she had given me, and I thought she was in a completely different situation with adult supervision. I decided to call the police myself before somebody else did. Her girlfriend showed me the apartment she was in and I led the police there with the assurance from them that they would let me pick her up and take her home, as she is only 16 and they had no cause to truly arrest her. I knew she would hate me, but she already does anyway, and I didn't want her alone in that apartment with drugs, alchohol and only one other girl with 6 guys, all 16 and younger. Of course, I ruined her life tonight. She hates me, wishes me dead, and never wants to see me again. She was drunk, disorderly, and cursing at me like a parrot. There was lots of alchohol found and a bag of pot, which she said she smoked, but it was the first time she had done that "in a while". The police had to calm her down and threaten to arrest her several times because her mouth was completely out of control. I finally managed to get her in the car and out of the situation. She told me that she was going to kill me if any of her friends got arrrested, because it would be all my fault, and she would then kill me for getting them in trouble. I called her father and told him the situation. At this point, I cannot take her home. I have a 7 year old boy with autism (Asperger's syndrome) who cannot afford to have this kind of chaos in the house when he wakes up in the morning. We decided the best thing I could do was drive her the 45 minutes to her Dad's house and let her cool off for the night. On the way there, she started to sober. She did apologize to me profusely, but still did not want to come home because she was still "pretty mad at me for calling the cops". I said, "That's okay, because I'm pretty mad at you for making me have to call the cops". She managed a smile. I'm glad she is safe tonight, but this is far from over. She is out of control, and as someone posted earlier, I am powerless, because when I child decides that she no longer respects you or your advice, they can do pretty much anything they want to do. I have stopped her momentarily, but I know it's just for now. I do believe that God has her in his hands. I am asking Him to let me respond correctly in every situation, to help me learn what I am suppose to and to keep her safe while she comes to her senses. I know He is in control, and I believe he is using this situation to make me completely trust Him. Let's hope that I am a fast learner (wink)
Thank you again for your loving thoughts and prayers. It really helps to know that I can lay it all down right here, openly and honestly.
I am but a babe in Christ. I have so much to learn. God has given me all of you, who are further along in your walk than me. You are helping me more than you can even know.
Sincerely
Keth30
Elizabeth Wilkerson
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