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Daddysgirl:
Hi all

I need your help. I have been fighting for months to forgive this one person. i finally thought i had, then this. maybe i shouldnt even go into details- they are far too depressing. But yesterday i had another encounter which made me realize that i still have a lot anger and despice and hatred toward this person.

I have never been able to hate any one person no matter what they did to me. I know with no linger of doubt that God is in control- i also believe that this person is doing what was predestined for him to do, I believe God and I know that i can of myself do nothing to get rid of this. I have tried and i cannot forgive him. I cannot even look him in the eye without wanting to spit out! i cry just thinking about how i am allowing this insignificant person(at least to me) to hinder my walk with God. How do i let it go inspite of all that he's continuing to do? How?

Heidi:
I once had a similar situation but with another lady.  She really humiliated me in front of my children and caused untold problems in the neighbourhood we lived.  To make a long story short.  I knew that I had to forgive her and believe me some days I would forgive her a 100 times.  This did not feel good at all and I knew that I needed to ask God to help me to forgive her as I was not able to do so of my own self.

He was faithful and because of Him I can now say that I no longer have any ill feelings towards her, instead, complete love knowing that God helped me to forgive her.

Hope this helps.  Just let go and let God.

kweli:
At the risk of being politically-incorrect my comrade (you and I are in SA so you may see the humour), I have to say there's really nothing you can do about it yourself. The more you align yourself to what GOD wants you to do in a certain situation (as hard and unconfortable as it may be), HE will do something about it.

Coincidentally, I had a half an hour conversation with someone I was trying (in my ability) to forgive. We hadn't spoken or seen each other in 2 years. I felt that she cheated on me and tried to ruin my life when I wanted nothing to do with her anymore. What she told me in that half an hour will probably do wonders for my spirituality. I saw so many obvious flaws in me that I couldn't believe I was so in denial. In a way, GOD used the situation to bring out the beast in me who sentences all those who wrong him to the pits of hell. If I did not have my eyes opened to that I'd still hate her, and anybody else who wrongs me (at least subconsciously).

All I'm trying to say, also agreeing with Heidi, is that it is very uncomfortable, possibly unnerving but true that as long as HE isn't done with either you or him then it will not go away. Maybe try to take the least travelled road and 'lose' the battle. Turn the cheek. Forgive him when it's the hardest thing to do. Believe me, it's one of the worst things you'll have to go through but the end result is that peace which surpasses all understanding.

My deep seeded hatred for her almost cost me a good relationship with a great person (maybe it has as I'm still learning to just surrender my puny will to HIM). But the peace, even if I may lose 'the perfect person for me', is really unexplainable (although I will be asking for a lot of prayers should that happen). I dont know what HE has in store for you but I believe HE wants you to succumb to HIM.

Forgive me for preaching but I felt I had to share this with especially you. Trust HIM

walt123:
hello daddysgirl
i understand how you feel, like most of us would,no one could say they like being mistreated
one thing that help me was ,looking at Jesus when he was going to the cross,slapped,spit,punched and the rest, and i couldn't help but think i was the one and all of us who did this to him,yet he said Father forgive them .
if i am wrong in my thinking ,by all means please correct

GOD bless you with forgiveness.

jennie:
All I can say to you is that it will come in time. Rst on the Lord of us all . He made us with flaws and goodness too. He knows your pain. Lay it on His shoulders like you would your Daddy. I am not skilled or intelligent in matters such as this. I just say what I do. Much love to you, Jennie

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