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daywalker:
"You know what helped me the most from your posts?
The scripture that you gave me "...how He is so are we in this world."

That spoke directly to my spirit.
I think that that was exactly what I was looking for!!"

Hey Ariel,

Glad to hear that verse helped you, it helps me too.  :)

- Christopher

indianabob:
Dear Friend Ariel,

I have read all the notes and agree with the helpful remarks and with your sincere appreciation for them.

I am a guy and I think that I have gone through some of the same things except not regarding my wife, since she has a very forgiving and patient attitude.  I was more the guy who would turn off the porch light and avoid the kids who came to our door asking for candy on Halloween and embarass my wife because of my attitude.  I was the guy who wanted to pay the first tenth of my pay check to the church even though we couldn't afford it.

So anyway, I was the problem child (immature and selfish)  However, one thing I have learned since drawing closer to the true understanding of God's plan is that we do not need to confront anyone about our faith.  We are of course eager to share what God has to offer, but we DO NOT have to show it; God knows our heart and that is enough.

This is especially true of our family and relatives.  We now have the pearl of great price that assures us that God has just as much love for our family as He does for each of us.  So, although it is probably too late now in your family to take back things you may have tried to teach your family (for their own good) it is not too late to work on being balanced in your family relationships.  In other words take lots of time to help your children with their homework and time to listen to your sister in law concerning her needs and gripes and even gossip that she thinks she just has to share with you and even when she seeks agreement and you don't want to agree because it is wrong to spread gossip.  (in my case I just wait till later that day and go to God with it)

Now this is quite difficult to do in a close knit family, because they know so much about us that they can bring up again and again.  My main point here and please believe that I am not judging you on any level, just offering my own experience with the hope that it might help a little; my main point is that you do not have to correct or inform or do anything to keep your family from making mistakes other than to be a loving, patient example.

Being an example can be made even harder, when others already think that we are just acting superior when we stop yelling or stop swearing out loud or become punctual when we never were before.  It can be a real struggle to convince them that we are really interested in their opinions and needs and their work etc etc., but that is what I am suggesting.  Relax and let everyone around us be themselves, no matter how they may misbehave.  We probably should try to remember that God is working on us alone and not on them as far as we know.  With that in mind we can focus on just being the nicest person we know how to be and let everyone else relax too.

Ariel, please know that I realize that these comments may not fit your situation. So use what you can and cast the rest away.

Love and hugs from an old goof.  Indiana bob

hammerandnails:
Dear Bob,
Thank you so much for your reply.
And, sincerely, it help a lot.
I am the type of person that I have to take control with everything.
I believed that the destiny of the whole world is dependent on me.
Even if God is doing something, I, somehow have to peak to see what he is doing.
But He is smarter than me [daha!] and hid himself real good from me.
Just to teach me not to peak and let go.
 
             "You have wearied in the greatness of your way; yet said you not, There is no hope..." Isa.57:10

This stems from my childhood. I had a lot of responsibility even then.
I was responsible for the house to be clean, my brothers and sisters to be cared for, grocery shopping,
cooking, wood chopping, make coffee in the morning, and it all started when I was 7.
That was beside my homework etc.

Now, I am becoming more relaxed by the day. Like you said, my responsibility is my family, to spend time with them,
not sharing Christ with them every moment.

You hit the nail in the head!! ;D

Good advise from an old goof!! :-*
Thank you so
In Christ,
Ariel

aqrinc:

Hi Old Goof  ;D and Ariel, :-*

I hope you allow me to use the information you both put out here. Interesting what you see when reading others posts.
Here are some Scriptures that address how we should handle these situations.

Isaiah 61:1:
The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me; because the LORD has anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek; he has
sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are
bound;

Matthew 11:29:
Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and all of you shall find rest unto your souls.

Galatians 6:1:
Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, all of you which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness;
considering yourself, lest you also be tempted.

Colossians 3:12:
 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;

I Peter 3:4:
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit,
which is in the sight of God of great price.

george.

hammerandnails:
Dear George,

Few things are more precious that the right word or the right scriptures at the right time!!!! ;D ;D ;D

Thank you so much :-* :-*

In His Love,
Ariel ;D

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