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hebrewroots98:
Oh Gena, you have always had such a warm place in my heart!  Thank you for your concern and prayers!  We are getting around very well now, thank the Lord!

Hi there Musicman!  You are right about not giving cash, I had learned long ago to never give money to a drug addict.  My DH thinks that providing them with food keeps them from being at their lowest thus then being where they can hear God talking to them??  ???

Yes, I will try and fight this vehicle wreck situation. God will open or close my doors for me...BECAUSE HE IS A GENTLEMAN!!!  All that i have to do is to walk through those doors in faith that HE is the one in control!

blessings,
Susan

hebrewroots98:
OOPS, I sent this out before I was able to thank ALL of you for your prayers!  That means ALOT to me...May God richly bless you for caring for me :)

In Him,
Susan

hebrewroots98:
(Wow, I just noticed that I have been on here for 13 days, 13 hours and 13 minutes as of NOW...I know there is a meaning behind this, I'm just not sure what that would be???) 

Well, I just respoke w/ DH and he is furious that I would want to help them after they have taken so much from our home and family after 28 yrs; he thinks that I am asking for troulbe and disrespect and that I am not protecting our family... He says that he would not be a good husband or daddy if he allowed us to sacrifice for these two guys again; he says that he feels that he would be worse than an infadel if he allowed them to interupt our home anymore...they have been unthankful and disrespectful  to us in the past and they only call us when they need something and that he won't help them when they refuse to work and plan for themselves...he still maintains that we would be enabling them again like always before and that they will not learn their lesson if we help them...I just told DH that I do not agree but that in order to keep peace that I would not say anymore about it to him; he is fine with that arrangement.  I told him that I would be very upset if something happened to them though and that he would be resposnible for our family's decision and not me...

cjwood:
susan,
regarding your brothers (and their dog) i would take them food (doggy too) and know that you are doing what Jesus would do. yes, they have taken advantage of you and your husband, yes they have made horrible decisions in the past (except for the poor dog), but we are called to a higher calling than resentment (which your dear husband is harboring) and that calling be to love your enemies (even if they are also your biological brothers). but i cannot see our Savior turning His back on them when they are so low and expect to not help them til they see what they have done wrong. i don't know if your husband is a believer or not, if he is then he is not following the example of Jesus Christ. if he is not a believer then he will never understand your compassionate heart for your brothers. you say that your husband is usually a benevolent man but in this case he is fed up. i can understand that your husband is frustrated. he is also angry. he is also trying to make you feel guilty that you want to help your brothers and their dog, eventhough you will ONLY being giving them food to eat. if the food you give to them will not be taking food off your table then your husband is being unreasonable. your brothers need help. i don't know where they live but they need intervention. surely there are some city or state organizations that could advise you. please don't let the bitterness your husband is feeling cause you to not do what your heart is urging you to do. you will not be enabling them by feeding them. perhaps they qualify for food stamps. if you turn away from your brothers and their doggy you are not only turning your back on them, you will be turning your back on the love of Christ. that is our example. that is our calling. i will say special prayers for you and your family. regarding the auto accident, i am thankful you and your son are recovering. (God knew your brothers would be needing you) i would do as others have advised you and talk to the officer who was at the scene of the accident and tell him that you did not have an opportunity to tell your side of the story. i cannot believe that any officer would file an accident report without speaking to you first. he could have visited you in the hospital to do so. if he will not listen to you then i would appeal to the his superintendent. susan, please know that i am not asking you to disrespect your husband's decision to not help your brothers anymore, but he is disrespecting your love for your brothers.

love in Christ Jesus,
claudia

Robin:
Hi Susan,

I will always give my son food, warm clothing, and help him get medical attention if he needs it. That is all I will do when he is drinking. I take the tags off the clothes so he can't take them back. I won't pay his bills. I won't let him live with me. I won't bail him out of jail. I won't pay his tickets or fines. I won't pay his consequences for him. I won't give him cash. I know many people think that's enabling, but what good does it do if you don't enable and they die. I try very hard to keep my distance and stay out of all his drama. It only harms me to get involved because there is nothing I can do to fix it. Being responsible gives him a better chance of getting better.

Sending lots of hugs and prayers.

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