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Woes of a wedded wanderer...
hillsbororiver:
--- Quote from: Extol on January 14, 2011, 11:51:46 AM ---
Hi Joe,
Actually, one of the things I'm most thankful for is her openness to receive the truths of God. We were already attracted to each other, but it wasn't until I told her how important my beliefs were that we really fell in love. Also, I made sure to give her a summary of my foundational beliefs (God is sovereign/All will be saved), just to make sure she didn't have a problem with it. God is still working on her regarding the free will thing, but she already agrees that eternal torment is despicable, and not something that a loving God would do.
Most of the problems we've been having are about earthly, temporary things (such as money--I'm a full time student so I haven't worked much in the last year; and she's also out of work right now). In that, I guess I can take heart...we eventually will realize how unimportant some things are, and appreciate what we have in each other.
lostANDfound, your post brought a big smile to my face. Thanks! :D
Thank you all for your encouraging words, and your prayers. <3
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Hi Extol,
Ahhh... that dastardly money thing, I totally skipped over that reality! :o
That is a big one, perhaps the biggest (or most prevalent) frustration with so many newlyweds. I feel like an idiot missing that issue! :-\
When income is a problem cutting costs is the first and sometimes the only solution, way back in the caveman days (1970's) I faced the same problem and after complaining to my parents how tough things were and how we were experiencing a lack of fund$ to meet our commitments my Mom said she could help.
YES! $$$ to the rescue! ;D
In a couple days I received a very thick envelope in the mail... hmmmm Mom & Dad sending cash rather than a check, what's up with that? ???
After frenetically ripping open the envelope (all the while careful not to tear legal tender) I saw nothing but hand written pages...
Recipes. :P
RECIPES! >:(
Yes, recipes from my Grandmother who fed a family of six on pennies during the Depression in the 30's plus some my Mother used when her and my Dad were struggling with one income and 2 (at that time) toddlers (my sister and me) back in the 50's... Needless to say it was not the quick fix I was anxiously anticipating. :'(
Well, I will resist my natural tendency to be tedious and long winded and just say after the initial disappointment it was, "ok, what the **** have I got to lose?" As it turned out I lost nothing, saved about 50% of what we had been previously paying for groceries and we also found that cooking and being creative in the kitchen drew us closer together albeit with a bit of competition as to who could make the best stuff.
Casseroles.
Crock pot meals.
Pasta.
Rice and beans.
Stews.
The list is huge and one advantage you have that we (Grandma, Mom, etc.) did not is the Internet, you can find a whole bunch of inexpensive, healthy (but maybe time consuming) recipes online that could cut food costs way down, also with Tupperware or even foils or wraps you can use leftovers for lunch or freeze for future use.
It works if you try it. There is an incredible amount of satisfaction in creating a meal for under $10 that makes 2 suppers and a lunch or two...
Actually there are many talented, creative chefs here in the Forum who I am quite sure would be more than happy to share some tips on tasty, inexpensive meals.
There are more ways to save or reduce costs but they often do require a bit more time and diligence, public transportation for one.
I am certain we have people right here who can offer excellent suggestions, especially Craig, he throws nickels around like manhole covers... I heard he still has money from left from what the Tooth Fairy gave him as a kid. :D
Peace,
Joe
grapehound:
Amen John and Joe.
Sagely stuff.
Joe, I love your Mom and Dad!
walt123:
Hi extol
Welcome to the world of marriage,I would strongly recommend to books,
the" Total money makeover" by Dave Ramsey.
A proving track record that it works,just omit the 10% to the Church section.
And the other book,"Men are from mars and Women are from Venus.
O ,one last thing to remember "A happy wife is a happy life".
Walt.
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hillsbororiver:
--- Quote from: grapehound on January 14, 2011, 11:02:01 PM ---Amen John and Joe.
Sagely stuff.
Joe, I love your Mom and Dad!
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Hi Grape,
They had a sense of humor, were not overly concerned about my "self esteem" and would push and prod us to be independent and productive, they set a very good example with all the adversity they both overcame in their lives starting at a very young age but that is a whole other story.
Thanks and take care,
Joe
Samson:
--- Quote from: walt123 on January 15, 2011, 01:42:01 AM ---Hi extol
Welcome to the world of marriage,I would strongly recommend to books,
the" Total money makeover" by Dave Ramsey.
A proving track record that it works,just omit the 10% to the Church section.
And the other book,"Men are from mars and Women are from Venus.
O ,one last thing to remember "A happy wife is a happy life".
Walt.
Amen, Brother Walt,
" A Happy wife is a Happy Life," ;D. I can remember a friend of mine many years commenting about His Mother finally having a good Marriage and He stated: " My Mother is finally happy, Now we are all allowed to be Happy." ;).
Kind regards, Samson.
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