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Welp, the Divorce rate just spiked!!
cjwood:
dear christopher, my heart aches with you, in tandem. :'(
5 yrs ago, on christmas eve morning, i opened the door into our computer room and found my husband web camming, frontal nudity and all, with a woman in another country. out of left field for sure!
as soon as i read your tragic post this evening, i felt the very same sickening kick, square in the solar plexus, just like i did 5 yrs ago.
i am so sorry that you find yourself in a place now you never even considered you would ever have to arrive at. surreal at times, especially at first. :'(
approximately 3 wks. ago i found out my husband (9mths dating/19yrs married, tomorrow actually) :( , was having another online relationship, which then crossed into fantasy tales being written and passed between the two of them, which included multiple sex scenes. this time it was with a woman i have considered my friend for the past 4 yrs. this time, the options have been exhausted. this time, it IS time, for me to proceed with separating myself from this marriage.
the overwhelming, unbearable, deep ache in your heart is an actual pain, felt physically. a bazillion questions and hypotheticals bombard your mind, weaving into your soul. your very faith and trust that Father Creator loves us so much, that He draws us into His bosom of security and rest; as visualized in great hugs of affection, is put to the test, front and center. circumstances cause so many questions.
i am now sitting here, trying to find words to soothe your heartache, and the sense that you have lost all direction. spun around like a top and left to land where you end up.
i am finding that sometimes, there are no words to say.
sometimes, the deafening silence can render us mute.
seemingly frozen, unable to move in any direction.
but, christopher, the deep, deep silences are needed.
just as the voices are, of our beloved brothers and sisters in Christ on this forum.
everyday for the past 3 wks. i wanted to post a request for prayer on my behalf, and for my husband. to bare my pain. to cry out that i was broken. but, i was frozen. stuck.
now i get an inkling of why it was not time for me yet to 'go public'.
it's always about timing.
God's perfect, precise timing.
the time for your wife to expose her heart to you had not yet happened.
now, as brother and sister in His Truth, Love, heartbreak and pain, we can help carry each others' cross for a little while. :)
please forgive me dear daywalker, and forum family, for going on so long...
i will keep you in my prayers. continually.
His peace will come. He gives us just enough light for our feet, so we don't trip up looking too far ahead.
Jesus Christ is our True Beloved.
claudia
judith collier:
Dearest Claudia and daywalker, there is nothing worse than loving someone wholeheartedly and being betrayed or have them change the entire picture of your life to the point you wonder what dream world you were living in and not noticing the little and subtle messages. For ten yrs. I either denied or ignored the messages, I just knew something was wrong.
My heart aches for the both of you. Just today a friend called and said her daughter's husband wanted out of the marriage for more freedom. Actually freedom had a picture, a beautiful blond woman across the street!!!!
Nothing hurts worse than a marriage turning badly.
It took many yrs. for me to get over it when i found my husband with my best friend but i did. One thing NEVER do!!!!!! Do not go over and over what YOU could have done better, it is their own decision thorougly distanced from anything concerning you!!!
The lie that was my life was over, it was a pretty lie with all the trimmings and children and security but it was not real, just my fantansy. I realized I didn't even know this man but I did find myself, my true self again and I am freer than he could ever dream of being. My eventual good and his eventual bad.
I grew, God was there and I am happy now. Someday you will be too!!!
My thoughts and prayers are with you both. love, judy
Daddysgirl:
Hi Christopher
I just wanted to let you know that my heart has been bleeding for you from yesterday when I first saw your post.. I can only imagine the state of your heart right now. Please just hang in there... all will make sense in God's perfect timing.
I am with you in prayer.
Matty
Samson:
--- Quote from: daywalker on July 10, 2011, 05:34:31 AM ---
30 minutes ago, my wife told me she wanted a divorce. This was completely from left field to me because we get along great and we hardly ever argue (our last argument was over 2 months ago, and it was mild). She says it's her, she says she's changed and we're so different now, different dreams, different plans for the future...something like that... Anyway, never thought I'd be "divorced" before turning 28 years old. I'm in shock, practically paralyzed... I'm not okay...please pray for me! I'm very angry at God right now...I don't wanna be...but, I am.
Daywalker :'(
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Christopher,
I'm Truly sorry about Your recent Trial. Yes, when confronted with sorrow that's completely surprising and totally unexpected, it's the worst kind. True, on an intellectual & Spiritual level, All of us at Bible Truths know that All is of God and it's part of God's plan for us to experience Evil in order to Humble us and it's a gradual process, but once again People make choices, because they DESIRE to do so and regardless of their motive, these choices can and often do hurt others. Your above sharing of the reality of getting Divorced based on the content of your Post is a surprising shock to Me and constitutes an emotional dagger. If there's anything within My circumstances that might be of benefit in Your behalf, please let Me know, your participation at this Forum is much appreciated by Me.
Also, I wrote you a PERSONAL MESSAGE, When you find the time, feel free to read and respond at your earliest convenience. My prayers go out in Your behalf the God Will have mercy on you using His divine influence to heal you and see you through this experience of Evil.
Your Brother in Christ, Samson.
Samson:
--- Quote from: cjwood on July 11, 2011, 03:23:15 AM ---dear christopher, my heart aches with you, in tandem. :'(
5 yrs ago, on christmas eve morning, i opened the door into our computer room and found my husband web camming, frontal nudity and all, with a woman in another country. out of left field for sure!
as soon as i read your tragic post this evening, i felt the very same sickening kick, square in the solar plexus, just like i did 5 yrs ago.
i am so sorry that you find yourself in a place now you never even considered you would ever have to arrive at. surreal at times, especially at first. :'(
approximately 3 wks. ago i found out my husband (9mths dating/19yrs married, tomorrow actually) :( , was having another online relationship, which then crossed into fantasy tales being written and passed between the two of them, which included multiple sex scenes. this time it was with a woman i have considered my friend for the past 4 yrs. this time, the options have been exhausted. this time, it IS time, for me to proceed with separating myself from this marriage.
the overwhelming, unbearable, deep ache in your heart is an actual pain, felt physically. a bazillion questions and hypotheticals bombard your mind, weaving into your soul. your very faith and trust that Father Creator loves us so much, that He draws us into His bosom of security and rest; as visualized in great hugs of affection, is put to the test, front and center. circumstances cause so many questions.
i am now sitting here, trying to find words to soothe your heartache, and the sense that you have lost all direction. spun around like a top and left to land where you end up.
i am finding that sometimes, there are no words to say.
sometimes, the deafening silence can render us mute.
seemingly frozen, unable to move in any direction.
but, christopher, the deep, deep silences are needed.
just as the voices are, of our beloved brothers and sisters in Christ on this forum.
everyday for the past 3 wks. i wanted to post a request for prayer on my behalf, and for my husband. to bare my pain. to cry out that i was broken. but, i was frozen. stuck.
now i get an inkling of why it was not time for me yet to 'go public'.
it's always about timing.
God's perfect, precise timing.
the time for your wife to expose her heart to you had not yet happened.
now, as brother and sister in His Truth, Love, heartbreak and pain, we can help carry each others' cross for a little while. :)
please forgive me dear daywalker, and forum family, for going on so long...
i will keep you in my prayers. continually.
His peace will come. He gives us just enough light for our feet, so we don't trip up looking too far ahead.
Jesus Christ is our True Beloved.
claudia
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Claudia,
Indeed, as with Christopher, I'm truly sorry for Your ordeal too, it seems that many of Us at Bible Truths share experiences in this Emotional relationship pain. I read John From Kentucky's Post and that adds to the mix, He was in His late Twenties too and had it all taken away from Him(Wife & Children). I don't wish any of this on anyone. I sent you a PERSONAL MESSAGE too, only hoping to help. I'm truly sorry you are suffering. When experiencing these emotional trials, AT THAT TIME, it doesn't seem fair, only later on, Do We get the answer as to WHY.
With Agapeo, Samson.
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