Jnoah,
Having been raised in the First United Pentecostal system, I can understand the "talking in tongues" doctrine being a sticking point. In the Pentecostal church, it is preached that speaking in tongues is the only sign that one has the Holy Spirit indwelling. They actually alter Acts 2:38 by adding "with the evidence of speaking in tongues" at the end. The fact that the Scripture had a phrase added to it was the big red flag for me after reading Ray's article on the subject.
Notice how Acts 2:38 actually reads:
Act 2:38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.
The spurious phrase that was added by the Pentecostal church is not there. The sentence ends after Holy Ghost.
Here are some applicable verses from 1 Cor 14 dealing with speaking in tongues:
1Co 14:22 Wherefore tongues are for a sign, not to them that believe, but to them that believe not: but prophesying serveth not for them that believe not, but for them which believe.
1Co 14:23 If therefore the whole church be come together into one place, and all speak with tongues, and there come in those that are unlearned, or unbelievers, will they not say that ye are mad?
I have seen this occur time and time again when someone new came to the service. Everyone would start babbling in "tongues," and the person would leave thinking the congregation was possessed.
1Co 14:27 If any man speak in an unknown tongue, let it be by two, or at the most by three, and that by course; and let one interpret.
1Co 14:28 But if there be no interpreter, let him keep silence in the church; and let him speak to himself, and to God.
I can only recall a few times that an "interpretation" actually happened.
1Co 14:40 Let all things be done decently and in order.
I hope these scriptures help. Ray brings out another verse that applies to the gift of speaking in tongues:
1Co 12:8 For to one is given by the Spirit the word of wisdom; to another the word of knowledge by the same Spirit;
1Co 12:9 To another faith by the same Spirit; to another the gifts of healing by the same Spirit;
1Co 12:10 To another the working of miracles; to another prophecy; to another discerning of spirits; to another divers kinds of tongues; to another the interpretation of tongues:
1Co 12:11 But all these worketh that one and the selfsame Spirit, dividing to every man severally as he will.
1Co 12:29 Are all apostles? are all prophets? are all teachers? are all workers of miracles?
1Co 12:30 Have all the gifts of healing? do all speak with tongues? do all interpret?
Paul is stating that not everyone will have the same gifts. That blows the Pentecostal teaching right out of the water.
1Co 13:8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
I am not saying or spouting these scriptures to condemn you, Jnoah. I understand completely how hard it can be to let go of that teaching of the Pentecostal system. We all have to unlearn so much garbage. I am reciting these scriptures out of love and the desire to help, not condemnation.
In Him,
John
EDIT: In regards to Mat 22:12-13, these verses may be the actual matches for explaining it:
Rom 3:19 Now we know that what things soever the law saith, it saith to them who are under the law: that every mouth may be stopped, and all the world may become guilty before God.
1Sa 2:9 He will keep the feet of his saints, and the wicked shall be silent in darkness; for by strength shall no man prevail.
Jer 2:26 As the thief is ashamed when he is found, so is the house of Israel ashamed; they, their kings, their princes, and their priests, and their prophets,
Jer 2:32 Can a maid forget her ornaments, or a bride her attire? yet my people have forgotten me days without number.
Tit 3:11 Knowing that he that is such is subverted, and sinneth, being condemned of himself.