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wanting to take vows... till marriage is possible
indianabob:
Hi Connie,
I offer the following without judgment of any kind. My wife and I have had a similar situation with our children.
If you and your husband are of the same mind about your personal beliefs then you have a firm foundation from which to proceed. You set the example together and allow your daughter and her friend to observe your life and the conduct of it.
You set the parameters of how they or anyone for that matter are expected to conduct themselves within the walls of your house. Example: sleeping separately for a night or two will not harm their relationship I'm sure, so if possible, if it is not already too late to take a stand with them, request respectfully that they respect your sincerely held beliefs and then kindly prepare separate quarters for them during their visit. If they are truly loving and seeking acceptance this will not cause any difficult feelings and it should, we hope, actually cement relationships between you and the new young man. e.g. you accept him with conditions, conditions that you would apply to anyone and everyone.
Please take these thoughts with a spoonful of sugar to sweeten them and know that I have dealt with a similar situation and do understand. Also understand that it is not your place to judge your daughter in this matter. She has to live her life as she chooses. You and your husband then have the understandable right to live your life as you choose and she should be able to handle any differences with a mature attitude. Being your daughter, I'm sure that there can be a meeting of the minds.
Love and hugs from a parent of four beloved, mistake prone children who are struggling to deal with what life has handed them. Indiana Bob ::)
theophilus:
Can someone define marriage scripturally? Who performed the first marriage? How do men get authority to perform the marriage ceremony?
cjwood:
just wanted to jump in here to say to I-bob that your post reply to connie was a joy to read. one parent who has walked the same path, helping other parents who finds themselves standing in the same footprints. common experience is such a helpful tool as we come together to try and figure out how to get through the realities of our physical lives. i personally have learned much from your posts indianabob, and thank God you are my brother in Christ.
claudia
indianabob:
Sincere thanks Connie, much appreciated.
We are ONE in Christ. Bob
--- Quote from: cjwood on September 21, 2013, 01:21:49 PM ---just wanted to jump in here to say to I-bob that your post reply to connie was a joy to read. one parent who has walked the same path, helping other parents who finds themselves standing in the same footprints. common experience is such a helpful tool as we come together to try and figure out how to get through the realities of our physical lives. i personally have learned much from your posts indianabob, and thank God you are my brother in Christ.
claudia
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loretta:
--- Quote ---just wanted to jump in here to say to I-bob that your post reply to connie was a joy to read. one parent who has walked the same path, helping other parents who finds themselves standing in the same footprints. common experience is such a helpful tool as we come together to try and figure out how to get through the realities of our physical lives. i personally have learned much from your posts indianabob, and thank God you are my brother in Christ.
claudia
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Yes, I too learnt much about this rocky road called parenting. tks Indianabob. :)
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