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lilitalienboi16:
--- Quote from: skydreamers on June 28, 2007, 12:27:43 AM ---Alex, are you experiencing unrequited love from your ex-girlfriend Jacqueline?? Is that where your anger stems?? Lil' bro, you're in good company if so, because the Savior is showing you something of what He goes through daily....seeking after a lover that rejects him constantly...yes our Jesus will win His bride in the end, but what agony in the meantime...
God teaches us in so many ways...
Much luv to ya brutha,
Diana
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I'm not sure what 'unrequited' love means, but i have a feeling it means 'when you love someone so much, but they don't love you one bit back' =[
If thats what it means, then you hit the nail right in the head. A while ago, i think a year and a half ago or two i wrote in the off topic forums what i was going through, and it had to do exactly with this, the girl of my dreams had broken my heart, and to this day she won't even throw me a bone, yet i love her so deeply. She wounds me the most, and it hurts the most because she means the most to me out of anyone i know. She doesn't even know it anymore, we went from bieng so close, to being a mile apart, yet the Lord tells me that it will be okay, and He is with me, and i ask how can this be? I can't see the Lords promise right now, i feel like abraham, when He was promised a son and not bieng able to see how the Lord could fullfill that promise, it seemed so impossible. So does this.
I called her not to long ago today, she didn't pick up, so i left her a voicemail with a sincere heartfelt apology.
If anything, i now realize what our Lord goes through everyday, giving so much love, and not bieng able to feel any in return.
The pain and agony He must go through everyday.
I've become so hardened because of all this, its been 2 years now since we were last together and my love for her burns strong still, just buried beneath the monster i have become because of the tremendous pain.
Rather then drawing closer to the Lord through all this, i was hardened and fell away.
Let the beast within be revealed, let the pain come, let him reach his full potential, so that he might be destroyed by Christ, i can only pray.
Thank you for your insight and wisdom, all of you.
Love in Christ,
Alex
mari_et_pere:
--- Quote ---But how long did it take you to get to where you are in your walk with Christ? These things don't happen over night (in my case 10 long years and counting still), it's a maturation process.
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Well I'm not sure how to answer that, because I was attending my christian school starting at age 4, so I don't know. I didn't get real serious until my adult years I guess, but I always believed, even when I was basically doing nothing but absorbing and turning out evil every day.
--- Quote ---Matt, I must compliment you on my observation of how your posts seem to have changed into being much more positive, just in the past 8 months since I have been a member here on the forum. It seems that you were gone there for a couple of months and when you came back you seem to have found much more peace and contentment and joy in your life, I love to see that.
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Thank you so much for saying that! I was gone for more like a year or more, although you may not remember me from back then. I came back and yeah, was gone for a few months. But I really appreciate that! Quite a compliment when others can see what you feel. Know what I mean? :)
Thanks to you both!
Matt
mari_et_pere:
Hey Alex,
Just thought I'd let you know that I totally understand your feelings toward Jaqueline. I had a girlfriend years ago, and blah blah blah at the end I was without her, but of course she wanted to stay friends, which is worse than slicing your chest open with a dull bread knife and pulling your heart out with a rusty pair of pliers. Right?
So eventually I got over the fact that she didn't want to be with me because apparently there was someone else better (couldn't blame her) and also the fact that she wanted to stay friends (so she could have a backup plan perhaps?)
Another eventually later I met my wife and that girl from the past? She's off somewhere fulfilling God's will wether she knows it or not. (and I'd bet she knows not.)
Basically I'm saying keep your chin up dude.
Matt
YellowStone:
Hi Alex,
I'm not sure if there is a biblical connection to what I am about to say, but if anyone knows of one, pleasepost it.
I have learned that love is not about holding on, but letting go. Holding on to love is like binding loves wings; love also needs no scales, for it cannot be weighed, love is. Neither does love need Jaquline to love you, in order for you to love her. By all means, love her, but let her go, and if she comes back, then loved shared was meant to be, otherwise your love is free. :)
I have been where you are my friend.
Love Darren
Deborah-Leigh:
We are born to learn to love and be loved.
Through the hurts of rejection, misunderstanding, abuse, unforgiveness, sorrow, loneliness, lust, pain and deception, we finally learn that love is God and not our spouse, girl friend, boy friend or close associations.
Intimacy, trust, faithfullness, joy and ecstasy are His gifts operating through our imperfect and flawed relationships to one another.
At 50 years old I am so grateful that I have come past the jealousy, infidelity of youthful wandering eyes and hearts and the uncertainty that temptation offers the immature hearts on a quest for perfection. Only God is perfect. He is Spirit and that for me is what Love is. The expression of Gods nature through His vessels as He makes them for His purposes.
You asked for a scripture Darren. The one that comes to mind is perhaps one that is real for those who have suffered the trials and tests of preparation to know that what Paul expresses is true of Love and of God.
1 Cor 13 : If I can speak in the tongues of men and even of angels, but have not love, that reasoning, intentional, spiritual devotion such as is INSPIRED BY GOD'S LOVE for and in us, I am only a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2. And if I have prophetic powers, the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose, and understand all the secret truths and mysteries and possess all knowledge, and if I have sufficient faith so that I can remove mountains, but have not love GOD'S LOVE IN ME, I am nothing, a useless nobody. 3. Even if I dole out all that I have to the poor in providing food, and if I surrender my body to be burned or in order that I MAY GLORY, but have not love, I gain nothing. 4. Love endures long and is patient and kind, love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. 5 It is not conceited, arrogant and inflated with pride, it is not rude and does not act unbecomingly. Love, GOD'S LOVE IN US does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touch or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it. 6. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. 7. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadless under all circumstances, and it endures everything without weakening. 8. Love never fails, never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end. As for prophecy, the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose, it will be fulfilled and pass away; as for tongues, they will be destroyed and cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away, it will lose its value and be superseded by truth. 9. For knowledge is fragmentary, incomplete and imperfect, and our prophecy, our teaching is fragmentary, incomplete and imperfect. 10. But when the complete and perfect comes, the incomplete and imperfect will vanish away, become antiquated, void and superseded. ....13. So faith, hope, love abide, faith - conviction and belief respecting man's relation to God and divine things; hope - joyful and confident expectation of eternal salvation; love - true affection for God and man, growing out of God's love for and in us; these three; but the greatest of these is Love.....
and is there a better way to describe the nature of our God?
Peace be to you
Arcturus :)
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